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Self-care; How to have Peace in these Busy times


Whether you work full-time or part-time or stay at home with your kids, life can feel so busy these days. It can seem like there are a million things to do and as if you are constantly running to get everything done.

You might also feel like you are always thinking about and taking care of other people. If you are in some sort of helping field or a job where you provide customer service or have to consider the well-being of someone else, even if you love the job, this can add to the overall sense of not having much time for you.

In the therapy field, we call taking care of yourself “self-care.” Here are some great self-care tips to promote peace and well-being for anyone who feels like life can get busy or overwhelming.


No matter how busy life is, you will be much more efficient and have more peace if you allow yourself some guilt-free breaks.

Take time to just relax, do something that you enjoy (that’s not related to work or household responsibilities). If you choose to spend your break with the kids, make sure that you aren’t doing something stressful. Simply relax and enjoy the moment…and don’t feel guilty about it.


Even though life requires you to think about others, especially when you are a parent or when you have a job that insists you be aware of and responsive to other people’s needs (such as what your boss wants, what your clients need, or for providing great customer service, etc.), it is important to think about your own needs and wants, as well.

Examples: Make a meal that includes food you love rather than catering to what your kids prefer. Spend your weekend doing activities that you enjoy whether that’s reading, walking, watching movies, going to visit a friend or relative, going shopping, or any other activity.


Even though your list of things to do might be a mile long, just do one thing at a time and don’t worry about the rest. Focusing on the here and now will help to make life much more enjoyable despite how busy you may be.

Examples: Even if you’re choosing to do nothing, just do nothing. Keep the thoughts of what else you have to do to a minimum or non-existent for the moment. If you choose to do the dishes, just do the dishes. Don’t think about the other things you need to get done. If you’re spending time with your family, just focus on doing that.

Only think about the bigger picture rather than the here and now when it is beneficial to think about and plan for everything that needs to get done at home and at work such as when you need to make a to-do list or when you need to consider what’s on your calendar.


Eating healthy can be beneficial to your mind and your body. Eating certain types of food can be good for increasing mood and energy.

Life is much easier when you have enough sleep. Sleep-deprivation makes things require more effort. Getting enough sleep improves efficiency and quality of what you do whether at work or at home. It also puts you in a better mood making the stress of a busy life more manageable.

Try these self-care tips out regularly and you should feel much more at peace with the busy times of today.

What are some self-care tips that help you to find peace in your busy life?

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Self-care; How to have Peace in these Busy times

Heather Gilmore, MSW, BCBA

Heather is a freelance writer, Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA), and social worker. Heather takes interest in topics related to parenting, children, families, personal development, health and wellness, applied behavior analysis, as well as Autism, ADHD, Depression and Anxiety. Contact Heather if you would like to inquire about obtaining her freelance writing services. You can view more articles and resources from Heather at and email her at [email protected] You can also advertise your autism services at one of Heather's websites: Heather is the developer of the "One-Year ABA Parent Training Curriculum."


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APA Reference
Gilmore, H. (2014). Self-care; How to have Peace in these Busy times. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 19, 2020, from