Are You a “Helicopter Parent?”

Mindy was told by her teenage daughter in the middle of a rage that she was being a “helicopter parent.” Her daughter was upset that Mindy asked for details about where she was going that night, who was going to be there, and when she would be getting home. For some reason, this standard line of questioning set her daughter into a rant about what a controlling mother she was. Confused by the term “helicopter...


15 Ways to Conquer Anxiety Without Stress Eating

After extensively dieting and exercising for months, Amanda was devastated to discover that she hadn’t lost a single pound. Her immediate discouragement was overwhelming, and all she wanted to do was give up and eat a large massive piece of chocolate cake. Curbing her craving, Amanda instead turned to the internet for answers and found that the real problem for her lack of progress might be the frequent anxiety from her stressful job.

Apparently, having...


Shame Based Parenting: A Narcissist’s Specialty

Victor’s therapist asked him the strangest question during his weekly session: “What do you obsess about the most?” He paused for a while to ponder the options, but one word kept resonating - shame. Was it true? Did he obsess about shame the most? A quick inventory over his day revealed several obsessive thought patterns all rooted in personal indignity.

But what does this mean? Where does this come from? Glancing through his childhood brought to...

Coping Skills

Parents of Narcissists: It’s Not You

Margret and Henry felt beaten down after a weekend visit with their daughter’s family. They were excited to see their grandchildren and spend time with their daughter but instead they became the target of their daughter’s verbal attacks. At times, their daughter treated them like a complete stranger forbidding them to interact with the grandkids. Then when she needed something, she acted like they were best friends and guilted them into buying things.

The confusing tactic...

Coping Skills

10 Signs of a Suicidal Attitude

There is a heavy pause in the air. Very rarely in our busy 24/7 society we encounter these silent moments, but every time a celebrity or a familiar person commits suicide the world seems to momentarily stop Shocked into a gasp of disbelief, wonderment, sadness, and awareness, this pause reminds us of the fragility of life.

Then comes the questions about the incident: How did they do it? Why did this happen? Who did they...

Children & Teens

What is Reconciliation Therapy?

After a three year absence from her 8 year old daughter, Allison was eager to reenter and reengage in her life. She had lost all custody rights due to a neglect charge that happened five years ago. Alison had gone inside a house to purchase illegal drugs and left her child unattended in a hot car. Her child was red hot and screaming when a bystander noticed and called the police. But she paid her...

Children & Teens

7 Things Children of Divorced Parents Need to Hear

Alice’s parents sat her down to tell her that they were going to get a divorce. She expected it long before they spoke. Recently their fighting escalating into no communication at all and the tension in the house was unbearable. Even though she was only a pre-teen, Alice was already worried about what the divorce would look like. Her best friend’s parents divorced the year earlier and they were constantly using their children to communicate...

Coping Skills

The Power of Intentional Self-Talk

After being in an abusive relationship for over 10 years, Marvin could not get it together. He had finally left the relationship, severed the ties, got some counseling, and even moved away but he was still struggling. The harmful words of his ex still rang in his ears. He would hear her voice in his head as if she was still there. “You’re stupid.” “You’ll never succeed.” “You’re such a loser, no one wants you.”

Worse yet,...

Coping Skills

Your Reaction to Criticism Unveils Your Psyche

There are split second moments in everyone’s life that reveals the inner workings of a person. A micro gesture of an upward turned part of the mouth in combination with a slightly closed eye might signal contempt for another person. However, this quick moment is easily missed by an untrained eye. But you don’t have to be that in-tuned to another person’s body language in order to figure them out.

Rather, their response to criticism is highly...

Coping Skills

How to Successfully Transition Major Life Events

Since the time you progressed from crawling to walking as an infant, life has been a series of major and minor transitions. There was growth from one school year to the next. There were interests, traumas, and accomplishments that impacted future decisions about career, hobbies, and adventure. And there were changes in relationship status from single, married, divorced, dating, or widowed. Each shift brings new challenges, opportunities, possibilities, and potential failures.

Sometimes the transition is gradual, while...

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