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How Narcissism Changes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Recently a teenager came into my office complaining about the anxiety they were experiencing from their Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) parent. They gave me a few examples. The compulsive handwashing that led to dry and sometimes bloody hands were imposed on everyone in the household. There was a sense of superiority that this family did things such as proper cleaning and sterilized laundry better than others. The excessive rituals before and after people would leave the house were designed to impress a magazine decorating editor. Unable to keep up with the expectations of the parent, the teenager felt defeated.

But after meeting the parent, it became apparent that in addition to the OCD they had Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This changes everything: the approach, the treatment planning, and the management of the OCD because the underlying motive is completely different. A person who has NPD and OCD is not likely to change their behavior but it can be guided so as not to impose destructively it onto others. By contrast, a person with OCD frequently wants their behavior to change and is embarrassed when they impose it onto others.

Here is a chart demonstrating the difference using the characteristics of NPD.

CharacteristicNPD w/ OCDOCD
MotiveOCD behavior reinforces and justifies NPD behaviorOCD behavior is done as coping mechanism when feeling out of control
Superior OCD behavior is done as a visual demonstration of their superior status (they like being thought of as outdoing their competition)OCD behavior is done to ease anxiety even though they most likely are doing things a better way
Fantasizes Fantasizes that the OCD behavior proves their worth and desire for power, success, beauty or ideal loveFantasizes that the OCD behavior is not severe and hides the full extent of their disorder
AdmirationPerforms OCD behaviors to gain admiration and praise from othersBelieves their mild OCD behaviors should be admired but not the severe aspects
SpecialOCD behavior is a way of further distinguishing an NPD from the pack and placing them in special statusKnows the OCD behavior isolates them; doesn’t like being thought of as special
EmpathyNo concern or empathy for how their OCD behavior negatively impacts othersConstantly feels bad for how their OCD behavior impacts others
EntitledDemands automatic compliance from others for OCD behaviors regardless of other’s beliefs or the impactDemands compliance from others to ease anxiety and has a hard time seeing the negative impact on others
ExploitativeExploits other’s lack of OCD behaviors as evidence of perfectionismTakes advantage of other’s compliance with their behavioral OCD nature to justify their continued behavior
JealousBelieves others are jealous of their OCD behaviors and methodsIs jealous of others who do not have OCD behavior
ArrogantIs proud and boastful of their OCD behaviors, frequently encourages others to be like themIs prideful of the mild OCD behaviors but shameful of the more severe behaviors


While cognitive behavioral therapy is highly effective for the treatment of OCD, it is not as efficient when the person is also narcissistic. Rather the underlying narcissistic characteristics need to tackled first before addressing the OCD behaviors.


How Narcissism Changes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Christine is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Qualified Supervisor by the State of Florida, a National Certified Counselor, Parent Coordination trained, a Collaborative Practitioner, Certified Family Trauma Professional, Trained Crisis Responder, and Group Crisis Intervention trained. One of the theories she subscribes to is a Family Systems Approach which believes individuals are inseparable from their relationships. .

She specializes in personality disorders (Narcissism and Borderline), trauma recovery, mental health disorders, addictions, ADD, OCD, co-dependency, anxiety, anger, depression, parenting, and marriage. She works one-on-one, in groups, or with organizations to customize relationship plans and meet the needs of her clients.

As author of the award winning book, The Exhausted Woman’s Handbook, Christine is a guest speaker at organizations and corporations.

You can connect with her at her website Grow with Christine at


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APA Reference
Hammond, C. (2019). How Narcissism Changes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 28, 2020, from