2 thoughts on “15 Strategies for Dealing with Difficult People

  • January 10, 2019 at 7:50 am

    I appreciate the list of tactics for dealing with difficult people. In many cases, they are accurate. However, it seems important to point out that these are not tools to be used when dealing with abuse. People who have been abused may not be able to tell the difference. I spent over 25 years attempting to use tools like these in my family, only to finally watch them abusing my mother as she was dying. I confronted what was happening head on, and was painfully kicked out of my family, rather than acknowledge the pain everyone is experiencing. If only I had done this decades ago, instead of trying a million different ways to hold my own and still maintain relationship! Incidentally, some of the same techniques that you describe here, are exactly what I have seen abuser use to sidestep, avoid and deny what is happening. People who are abused tend not to have issues with listening, showing empathy, etc. This is how they become hooked for year after year after year. If you’re going to talk about how to deal with difficult people, I’d strongly encourage you to give people the option of simply getting out when necessary, when employing those tools does not bring relief. Sick family dynamics are pervasive, and Allison’s story sounds like a nightmare.


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