4 thoughts on “How Narcissists Keep You from Grieving

  • February 7, 2019 at 9:23 am

    Very true. I remember I had to lie to my mother about my grandmother’s passing by I was supposed to go see my mother that same weekend. I didn’t tell her until years later in therapy that Margaret had passed that weekend and the therapist asked Marcee if it was true that there was a need to lie and she said yes it would of been very upsetting of she I changed my plans by of someone else. Death or not. Today years later I do not speak to my Narracisstict mother but I do live in the house on the farm my grandmother left to me.

  • February 8, 2019 at 11:43 am

    Did you have a camera hidden in my home and car?
    My ex husband was this way. Only he would complain about things on the way home from an event, and for days to follow as well!! I hated taking him anywhere and never saw it as him manipulating me.
    I read this because he did create another layer of pain around every loss I suffered in the ten years we were together. From getting mad at me because I wouldn’t have sex with him right after I found out my grandfather passed away, to refusing to drive me to bring my beloved cat to the emergency vet an hour away. I had to drive myself, make the excruciating decision to put my sweet kitty to sleep on my own, then drive myself back while bawling my eyes out. Then, of course, he blamed it on me that I didn’t ask him in the right way to drive me and he felt I was using him.
    Unreal. Here I sit…with a Masters degree in psychology…just floored the amount of manipulation he was able to pull with me. At times I think that is why he was able to play me so well. He knew I was a “helper” and that he could toy with my natural instinct to protect and help others.
    I hope someone reads this article and sees what is happening much sooner than I did. At least he is my ex…and I’m so much better off.


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