2 thoughts on “Why Some People Feel Guilty Over Everything

  • May 28, 2015 at 7:28 pm

    You have described my mother in your article. If I were to suggest this to her she would become very angry though. Anytime anyone spoke against her and on my behalf she wanted to confront them. She does often say, “I don’t remember that” or ” That never happened.” Or she has a revisionist way of retelling history. Sadly she has my 2 sisters snowed. I used to question myself but I have an excellent memory so why would it fail me only relation to my mother and not other traumatic or emotional events? Also, my mother’s favorite last resort card is “Fine I was a terrible Mother” and then dramatically weeps until you comfort her and tell her all the things she did right, totally getting off the original topic at hand.

    It took me moving to a different country to be able to be objective and see all of this. At age 50, I do have once a week phone calls and yearly visits (to all family) but I still find myself a little down after each phone call, even though we keep topics neutral, and anxious before any visit, though I usually ensure them to be drama free now by keeping conversation safe and knowing I xan leave early if Im uncomfortable. I guess I just feel sad and a bit fake and of course, still working on the guilt.

    • May 29, 2015 at 9:24 am

      You are not fake when you acknowledge what is not working in your life. So glad you have gained some perspective.


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