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Coping Skills

The Confusing Narcissistic Cycle of Abandonment and Return

“I never want to see you again,” Marie shouted to her husband as she slammed the door on the way out. Adam stood still wondering if she would immediately turn around as she had so many times before or if she would dramatically wait. Either way, he was no longer going to nervously run after her, text her obsessively begging for her return, or call her mother crying about her departure.

This time was going to...

Coping Skills

7 Gifts of Borderline Personality Disorder

A diagnosis doesn’t have to be negative. The very thing that makes a person unique, special, different, and an individual might just fit within one of the diagnostic codes. A gift of music or a talent in sports is celebrated, but aren’t these also things the separate out people from the norm? By definition, a diagnosis is a group of characteristics that are one or more standard deviation from the norm. But so are high...

Exhaustion

10 Ways to Improve Mental Functioning

Dolores recently lost her father to complications related to Alzheimer’s. Over the past ten years, she watched her dad deteriorate and become a shell of his former self. By the end, he did not know who she was, could not dress himself, and was on a soft food diet to minimize chocking. She grieved his loss with every decline and now that he was at peace, Dolores decided it was time to take care of...

Coping Skills

Lame Excuses Used to Defend Abusive Behavior

Having grown up in an abusive family and now in a relationship with an abusive person, Bailey believed the lame excuses constantly dished out to her. Beaten down, confused, hazy, and exhausted, she sought out help from a therapist. At first, she could not comprehend that she was the victim of abuse. She thought abuse was only physical but then learned it could also be verbal, emotional, mental, sexual, spiritual, and financial.

One of the steps...

Coping Skills

Males Can Be the Victims of Domestic Violence Too

William was ashamed and embarrassed. For years, he tolerated abuse from his wife yet he told no one. Knowing he would not strike back at her, she hit him, threw things at him, physically blocked him from leaving the room, and followed him when he did yelling insults. Sex was used as manipulation. If William did what she wanted, he could have sex. If not, there was no sex for months.

He was so humiliated by...

General

Why You Shouldn’t Ask “Why”

Mike was confused. Even though he was successful, he struggled with personal connections. He had professional relationships but they were very superficial and work-only oriented. When he tried to converse outside of business matters, he sounded awkward and unintelligent.

Home wasn’t any better. His relationship with his wife centered on discussing only severe matters about their teenagers. For the most part, he had no idea what his kids were doing and with whom they were doing...

Coping Skills

Stopping the Honeymoon Phase of Narcissistic Abuse

Sam saw a pattern. After her narcissistic husband would explode combining verbal assaults with mental and emotional abuse, he seemed calmer for several weeks. Then, as if there was a timer set on his frustration tolerance, one minute comment could spark the abusive rage again. The rages were awful. He would call her names, twist the truth, throw things at her, exaggerate her intentions, guilt-trip her into believing this rage was her fault, and even...

Stress

Why Adults Throw Toddler Temper Tantrums

“This is ridiculous,” James said after witnessing his soon-to-be ex-wife losing it because she didn’t get her way. She sounded like a 2-year-old who didn’t get a piece of candy with the same level of irrational reasoning. Her arms were flinging around, she threw a few small objects, her voice raised a couple of octaves, and she puffed out her chest as if she was ready to fight. All of this was over a location...

General

30 Ways to Take a Mini Break

Vicki was exhausted. Between raising three kids, working a full-time job, being married, and managing her household, she was worn-out. Desperately wanting a holiday, Vicki knew that even vacations weren’t really a vacation. The kids still needs constant supervision and eating out for every meal wasn’t economical. What she really needed was some time alone but that wasn’t possible either with too few people to watch the kids.

She loved her career and family but craved...

General

15 Ways to Stand Out at Work

Jennifer thought that once she got into a field she enjoyed, her upward mobility would be guaranteed. It wasn’t. Frustrated by the competition in her office, she wondered if all the hard schooling was worth the effort. Things were not working out as she planned and her dreams of owning her own firm someday were quickly crashing.

Worse yet, her first review at work wasn’t good. Her boss said Jennifer lacked a solid work ethic which...