The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC


Hidden Reasons for Poor Work Performance

This was the third poor performance review that Gretchen received at her job. Her boss was puzzled. Gretchen said she always dreamt of being a designer and finally got this job after working in several other low-end positions. But now that she was here, her performance was far below average.

While there can be socioeconomic reasons for underperformance, after many years of working, a person is usually able to rise above even the most difficult of...

Coping Skills

How to Communicate in Frustrating Situations

Marsha braced herself for the next family gathering because the last one was a complete disaster. She had been away from her family for a couple of years due to her expanding business and wanted to reintegrate. She looked forward to seeing her family and having them see her as an adult and not the child who left. But the harder she tried, the worse things got. She left feeling inferior, defenseless, deflated, and angry...

Coping Skills

The 8 Types of Abusive Behavior

Aaron wrongly believed that the only type of abuse was physical and then only if it left a mark. This is a common misunderstanding in our culture. When he took some time to review the different types of abuse, he realized that he experienced it in his marriage, from his parents, and on occasion was guilty of abusive behavior as well.

There are many other ways a person can be abused. Abuse can be manipulation, exploitation,...


12 Ways to Beat Holiday Stress

Anna was already exhausted. The holidays just began and she was overwhelmed by the pressures on her budget, the extra demands on the schedule, the additions of parties and celebrations, and the excessive stuff in the stores. She tried to be excited about decorating, but it felt more like a chore than a pleasure.

So instead of repeating the craziness of previous seasons, Anna decided to focus on one item per day to change. Here are...

Coping Skills

Crawling through the Stages of Grief

After the loss of their child, Steven and Samantha felt like they couldn’t breathe. Everything hurt as if the entire body took on excessive pain. It took extreme amounts of energy just to move, especially to breathe. Time seemed to stop. They couldn’t talk, words failed them. The voices of other people sounded like muffled noises in a distance. The only constant thoughts were: “Was this real?” and “This must be a bad dream.”

The doctor...

Coping Skills

15 Strategies for Dealing with Difficult People

Allison scrolled through Facebook admiring her friend’s posts. It seemed like everyone was enjoying their time with their family. There were posts of happy family reunions, large family gatherings for meals, joyous celebrations of newborns, and family vacations to wonderful exciting places. How come her life wasn’t like theirs? She felt the seeds of resentment towards her friend s growing with each new post.

Just thinking of the next family gathering could ignite a panic attack....

Coping Skills

The 5 Lies of Suicide

Nineteen years ago, my best friend, Alice, committed suicide. She was beautiful inside and out with a compassionate heart too large for her physical body. As one of the smartest people I knew (with a high IQ to boot), she loved to engage in passionate discussions about her favorite subject: politics. She had more energy than an army of hundreds and would cram more things into one day than most could in a week. She...

Coping Skills

Rewriting the Holidays after Loss

For the first time in 16 years, Janice was going to spend Thanksgiving without her kids. Even though the divorce was finalized in the summer, she did not realize until a week before the holiday that her kids would spend the entire week with her ex. She was devastated. The traditions she so purposefully cultivated were now going to be done by her cheating ex and his very young girlfriend. She was pissed.

James lost his...


A Volatile Combination: Loneliness and the Holidays

It was the first Thanksgiving / Hanukkah without her husband of 47 years. Nothing seemed right. For the first time, she was not hosting either celebration, her daughter and son took the holidays over to relieve her stress. But without the rituals and traditions, Nikki felt more isolated and alone.

As soon as the first sign of Christmas arrived in the stores, Brandy took a deep breath to hold back the flood of dread. She hated...


30 Ways to Jump-start Your New Life

Alex was desperate to move forward after her divorce was finalized. She was so tired of every conversation with her close friends and family beginning with the phrase, “So how’s the divorce coming along?” She wanted to talk about her, not her as a divorcee, but the person underneath the cloak of a bad marriage and a nasty divorce.

Her dreams, likes and dislikes, ambitions, and passions were as forgotten during the divorce as they were...