The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

11 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Looking back, Jack could see that his relationship with Amanda was over several months ago, perhaps even years. But he was in denial and didn’t want to confront the painful issues that were left unresolved. What was once overlooked, minimized, explained away, or discounted is now an obvious sign of his deteriorating relationship.

At first, she seemed so charming, helpful, generous, innocent, and gentle but then things turned, and an entirely different picture became apparent. Charming...

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How Trauma Impairs the Decision-Making Process

It was one of those perfect Florida mornings where the sun was out but not too strong, there was little humidity in the air, and the temperature was in the low 70’s. Added to that was an early spring day where the flowers are blooming, the birds were singing, and everything smelled fresh and alive. I love to take walks and enjoying an early stroll on such a day is wholly satisfying. So, it was...


11 Strategies for Successful Job Interviews

After 20 years at his company, Dave was asked to take early retirement.

He was shocked and disappointed by the suggestion. He also had no intention of retiring. The idea of playing golf, doing lunches, and gardening sounded terrible to him. He liked working and thought his company liked him. They did, they just didn’t want to pay his salary anymore.

So, Dave updated his resume and began the difficult process of interviewing. He hated everything about...

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My One-minute Mini Meditations

I keep a full schedule as a therapist. Every minute of my workday is planned out in advance to make the most of a moment. I work four days a week, 10-12 hours each day and see on average 30 hours of clients. The rest of my time is consumed with phone calls, emails, preparations for court, training, writing, supervising and speaking.

But I’m obsessed with my breaks. Since I specialize in working with personality disorders,...

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Road to Recovery from Narcissistic Parenting

Ida realized her mother was a narcissist in her early 20’s. But what she didn’t expect was the developmental impact on her childhood. Normally, a child is given the freedom to explore and express their individuality so they can develop into a confident and well-balanced adult. This nurturing environment prioritizes the needs of the child over the parent without overindulgence. But this did not happen for Ida.

Instead, Ida way hypersensitive to what other people might...

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55 Common Abusive Remarks

Ever wondered what abuse sounds like? What do abusers say to their victims to get them to acquiesce? Some of the statements listed below might even sound acceptable in certain environments, but they are not. Abusive behavior is pervasive and without awareness, it will continue.

There are seven major types of abuse.

Physical abuse is intimidation, isolation, restraint, aggression, and endangerment.
Mental abuse is gaslighting, silence, manipulation, and victimization.
Verbal abuse is screaming, bullying, name calling,...

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Why I hate Alzheimer’s

To say I hate a disorder as a therapist is a big deal for me. I specialize in personality disorders and have found beauty and giftedness where most see dysfunction. I don’t hate any other disorder, even the ones that tend to be destructive. But Alzheimer’s is different. A personality disorder can be understood and even managed. But Alzheimer’s cannot.

Alzheimer’s comes like a thief in the night. Except it keeps returning at random times during...

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9 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

When Bryan first met his girlfriend, he was smitten. She was charming, helpful, generous, kind, and interesting. She would laugh at his lame jokes, tell him how smart he was, was adventurous, and actively sought ways to spend time together. Naturally, Bryan overlooked some of the more concerning behaviors that his friends pointed out.

His friends told him that she was one person with him and an entirely different one when he was not around. Behind...


9 Patterns of a Dangerous Person

Have you ever been around someone and immediately felt uncomfortable? Almost as if they could see right through you? But then, within minutes, the person has disarmed you and despite the initial feeling of discomfort, you engage with them. Bit by bit they seem to know exactly what needs to be said or done to tear your wall down. So, you let them in, telling yourself that there is nothing wrong.

Dangerous people have this ability....

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9 Common Tactics of Stressed Out Abusive People

Sally was on high alert. Her husband called earlier in the day to let her know that he lost a large account at work. While he seemed flip about it then, she was preparing herself for a meltdown later that night. In anticipation of his arrival, she got the kids ready for bed, fed them, helped them with their homework, and let them watch a movie upstairs. She frantically straightened up the house, made dinner...