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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

General

15 Common Causes of Depression


“Depressed” is a combination of ‘de’ which means down and ‘press’ which is to flatten. Thus the meaning is a deep flattening down. It is stronger than sadness which is a short-term condition. Rather, depression lasts for a notable period of time and is present regardless of surroundings, people, lifestyle, and abilities. Contrary to some pop-psychology, depression is not a sign of weakness, a lack of purpose, not living in the moment, or an unstable...

General

3 Common Brainwashing Myths


Brainwashing can happen to anyone, in any place, and at any time. This is not the extreme type of brainwashing commonly spoken about with prisoners of war. Rather, it happens in everyday circumstances, to very intelligent people, in the safest of places, in amounts so incremental that they are hardly recognizable. Whenever a person puts aside their own safety in favor of another person or organization, there is a potential for mild to severe brainwashing....

General

Narcissists and Their Flying Monkeys


Art imitates life and so it is with “Flying Monkeys”. The term was coined from the movie “The Wizard of Oz” in which the Wicked Witch dispatches monkeys to fly and get Dorothy and her dog. The monkeys obey her command, doing her dirty work for her, taunting and terrorizing Dorothy as she tries in vain to get back home. And so it is with narcissists and their flying monkeys.

As if a magical spell has...

General

Why Some People are Naturally Attracted to Narcissists


After her second failed marriage, and several dysfunctional relationships in between, Jamie began to see a pattern. She would fall quickly and deeply into the new relationship eagerly believing that this person was “the one”. Her emotional attachment would be so strong that she lost view of herself and often put aside her personal boundaries. This led to her missing key red flags about her new mate, even going so far as to put herself...

Family

Growing Up in the Shadow of a Narcissist


Marie’s first response to her therapist when asked about her childhood was “It was fine, my dad was perfect”. Now, this statement is gold for a therapist and begs to be mined further. After indulging Marie in the perfect father fantasy for a few minutes, the therapist took things on a different approach and asked about her mother. Marie described her as highly anxious, a bit of an alcoholic, stressed for no apparent reason, and...

Coping Skills

The Portrait of a Cult: NXIVM


The self-help organization called NXIVM was founded by Keith Raniere who was found guilty of numerous charges including racketeering, racketeering conspiracy, wire fraud conspiracy, forced labor conspiracy, sex trafficking, sex trafficking conspiracy and attempted sex trafficking. NIXIVM was a front for the secret DOS organization in which women were slaves, branded with Keith’s initials, and told to make self-incriminating videos.

These women were professionals with well-named leaders including a nurse, actresses, and an heiress. Several interviews with...

Exhaustion

What is Verbal Abuse?

Verbal abuse is powerful. After years of counseling as an adult, Natalia realized that she was verbally abused by her father. His harsh words would wear her down to the point she couldn’t think straight. Then he would spin a situation around so everything was Natalia’s fault. Worst yet, as an adult, her dad’s words echoed in her head as she subconsciously reenacted her childhood within her marriage.

Verbal abuse very quickly intimidates the victim while...

Family

What to Do When Father’s Day is Not “Happy”


Trying to pick a card for Father’s Day is impossible for Mary. None of the cards she found reflected her experience. Her dad wasn’t present, didn’t support her interests, didn’t attend activities when she was a kid, or offer good advice. He did, however, go to work on his days off, sit on the couch watching TV on the rare occasions that he was home, intimidate her friends when they came over, verbally berate her, and left...

Family

What Does a Good Father Look Like?

Maladaptive dads are constantly in the news. They make the headlines with excessive abuse, abandonment of responsivity, neglectful actions, or even the death of their children by their own hands. While the headline is sensational, it can give the appearance that all dads are bad. But this is not true.

Unfortunately, not much attention is paid to excellent fathers. They rarely receive any attention at all and are frequently tossed in the dysfunctional section for some...

General

Who is the Most Narcissistic Generation?


Millennials are known as the most narcissistic generation of our time. The overindulge attention, special treatment for nothing special, and excessive emotional tolerance that parents gave their kids have not resulted in a more productive generation but rather one that seems apathetic. It’s a toss-up between who is more confused: Millennials because the world does not work the way they envision it should or other generations because they don’t understand how Millennials think.

How did this...