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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Exhaustion

How to Keep Dangerous People from Becoming too Close


Hailey was mortified by what happened at the last party. She watched as a “friend” flirted with her boyfriend and then made a pass at him right in front of her. Worst yet, her boyfriend returned the kiss and then left with her shortly afterward. Embarrassed and ashamed, Hailey was furious at both her boyfriend and friend.

When she told the story to another friend, they were not surprised and instead asked Hailey why she even...

Coping Skills

How to Deal with Narcissistic Grandparents


At a family gathering, Susie’s 2-year-old son was happily running around until her mother-in-law pulled out her cane and tripped him. Susie looked on in horror as the grandmother laughed while her son cried from the fall. Then the grandmother yelled at the boy for crying, calling him a crybaby. Susie swept up her son and took him away.

Later her husband asked what happened. Apparently, his mother reported that Susie was being overprotective of their...

Coping Skills

How to Prepare for Change


Miranda finally got the job she wanted. After 10 years of doing jobs that were beneath her skills, making the necessary connections, and settling for minimal pay, Miranda landed the job of her dreams. She knew that it was going to require a shift in her lifestyle due to the increase in travel. But she was ready for this challenge. Miranda wisely decided to take a couple of weeks off in between jobs to prepare...

Coping Skills

Is Their Change Real or False?


Marsha made a commitment that this year would be different. This would be the year when she would get serious about her career, stop smoking, and find the right guy. To solidify her decision, she told her friends and family that she had changed and this year she was going to prove it to everyone.

Mark left rehab for the 3rd time with a new commitment to being sober. This was like his other two commitments...

Coping Skills

Alzheimer’s: When Love Turns into Pain


Alicia watched the deterioration of her mother’s mind in agony. She wanted it to stop. The emotional pain was overwhelming. Her mother was becoming a shell of who she was and worse yet, her mom was unaware of what was happening. The diagnosis of Alzheimer’s seemed like a death sentence. Alicia wanted the progression of the disorder to slow down or at least pause for a moment. But it didn’t. One day her mom seemed...

Coping Skills

7 Steps Abusers Need to Take with their Victims

After reviewing the 7 types of abusive behavior checklist, Mariah identified the abuse she received as well as the abuse she gave. Her mother was verbally, mentally, and physically abusive with her as a child, something that Mariah pushed aside and did not confront until in therapy. But what really saddened her was becoming aware of how she was passing down some of the same abusive behavior onto her husband and children.

She told herself that...

Stress

My 25 Time Management Tips


The other day, one of my interns (I’m a supervisor for mental health students getting their license) asked, “How do you get it all done?”

It is a valid question and I remember being a student and wondering the same thing. When am I going to have time for all of the learning, marketing, and developing a practice and still maintain my sanity, keep my family intact, and enjoy life? How can I possibly add one...

Coping Skills

How to Talk about Narcissism without Saying Narcissism

It was during Tim’s divorce from his wife of 18 years that he realized she had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She had been a vindictive woman towards others in the past, cutting people off permanently when they accidentally or intentionally embarrassed her. But for some reason, he thought his 18-year marriage commitment would inoculate him from similar treatment. It did not. Even though she agreed to get a divorce, Tim’s filings of the papers seemed to...

Work

Hidden Reasons for Poor Work Performance


This was the third poor performance review that Gretchen received at her job. Her boss was puzzled. Gretchen said she always dreamt of being a designer and finally got this job after working in several other low-end positions. But now that she was here, her performance was far below average.

While there can be socioeconomic reasons for underperformance, after many years of working, a person is usually able to rise above even the most difficult of...

Coping Skills

How to Communicate in Frustrating Situations


Marsha braced herself for the next family gathering because the last one was a complete disaster. She had been away from her family for a couple of years due to her expanding business and wanted to reintegrate. She looked forward to seeing her family and having them see her as an adult and not the child who left. But the harder she tried, the worse things got. She left feeling inferior, defenseless, deflated, and angry...