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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

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11 Reasons Why Narcissists Hate Their Teen Kids


After Joe got in trouble at home for sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night, his parents sent him into counseling to be “fixed”. It wasn’t too long during the sessions that it became apparent that Joe’s father was a narcissist. Some of the frustrations that Joe was experiencing were directly related to how his father was now treating him in comparison to his pre-teen years.

For a narcissist, the teen years...

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Gaslighting: How a Parent Can Drive a Kid Crazy


When a parent physical abuses their child, it leaves marks and outbursts of anger in the child. When they verbally abuse their child, it strips them of self-confidence and instills fear. When they sexually abuse their child, it destroys the possibility of intimacy and healthy sexuality. But when a parent mentally abuses their child by gaslighting, the child believes they are crazy. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, often doing a lifetime of damage.

Gaslighting is a...

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8 Stages of Grieving after a Suicidal Death


Twenty years ago, my best friend took her life. She was plagued by severe bipolar and despite medication and treatment, she was unable to get better. She had a genius IQ, was beautiful, a delight to be around, a deep thinker, and obtained a by her early twenties. She was an amazing friend.  I can still remember the phone call informing me of her suicide and the numerous phone calls that followed as I...

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5 Steps to Stopping Holiday Anger


Driving during the holidays requires a bit of patience, lots of control, and a sprinkle of endurance. As I was driving down the left side of the highway slightly faster than normal because I was late, suddenly someone cut me off.  I slammed on the breaks and skidded a bit almost hitting the concrete barrier. Although I was safe, instantly, feelings of rage emerged.

Or your spouse promises they will be home by a certain time...

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6 Tips on Surviving the Holidays without a Partner


Dorothy lost her husband of 30 years this past year. She knew the holidays would be hard but didn't know they would be this difficult. Every ornament she hung reminded her of him. The cookies she baked were his favorites. Even her adult kids couldn't help but talk about what their dad would be doing. She tried so hard to put on a good face, but it felt like torture.

Worse yet, she developed anxiety and...

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7 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Dangerous Ex


“You bitch, I’m going to kill you.” Natalie’s ex-husband texted her after she refused to adjust the time sharing with their son for the holidays. It wasn’t the first time he made a threat, he did it numerous times before, mostly in person especially when he did not get his way. But this time, he sent a text message. It was in writing so she took it to the police.

Shortly afterwards, she filed an...

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The Deadly Progression of Abusive Text Messages


“I know, you just have to do it like you said.” Michelle Carter at 17-years-old sent this text message to her boyfriend just before he committed suicide in 2014. It was one of many text messages that she sent encouraging him to perform the act. In 2017, she was convicted of involuntary manslaughter for her participation in the death and two years later, a higher court upheld the conviction.


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13 Ways to Support a Domestic Violence Victim


Margaret was a respected physician in her community with a successful practice, numerous accolades for her work, and patients who loved her empathetic demeanor. Yet, despite her accomplishments, she had a personal secret that she covered up under her clothing, her bruises. It wasn't too long after the wedding that her husband began hitting her. Ashamed, embarrassed, and unsure of how to leave, Margaret remained. Her husband was likewise a respected physician in the community...

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5 Dangerous Love Attractions


Three divorces later, Susan finally discovered that she kept marrying the same type of abusive person over and over.

In the middle of an argument, Brian yelled and accidentally called his new girlfriend, "Mom."  Naturally, she ended the relationship.

Steve, who was shy, conservative, and introverted his whole life, married a flamboyant salesperson.

Why is there a strong attraction to a destructive partner? While there is no known origin of the saying, “Opposites attract,” the concept appears to...

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The Paranoid Narcissist: An Amalgamation of Frustration


She was impossible to console. Larry tried to reassure her that the stove was not on when they left the house. But his wife refused his reassurance. She accused him of lying and then turning on the stove before they left so the house would burn down by the time they returned. Larry tried to use logic by asking how he would benefit from losing all of his possessions, not to mention hers. "It's your...