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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

The Dangerous Lure of Narcissism

The media loves to cover narcissists almost as much as a narcissist loves to be covered by the media. And why not? The narcissist’s stories are colorful, prone to exaggeration, intentionally divisive, and feature them as the star. It is easy reporting because it is naturally interesting, requires limited verification, and is emotionally charging. A person either loves the narcissist or intensely hates them; there is little area for grey which makes for a great...

Coping Skills

The 9 Stages of Sexual Harassment

Twenty years ago, men were the thought of as the main perpetrators of workplace sexual harassment with women as their victims. Having been one of those victims in two separate work industry environments, with a boss and co-worker, the demoralizing encounter left a scar. It was frustrating to be recognized not for my hard work but rather, my appearance and naivety.

But as with everything else, times have changed. There are now mandatory trainings on the...

General

Top 10 Misguided Perceptions of Therapy

Do you wonder what it is like to go see a therapist? Perhaps you're in is a troubled relationship that is rapidly deteriorating? Or you have a boss who can’t be satisfied and who chooses to verbally assault employees? Or you've experienced a traumatic event that never seems to leave your current thoughts? Or you've had a recent loss that is so overwhelming, it feels as if will forever change your future?

Therapy is very useful in these cases and...

Exhaustion

10 Hidden Lies Said about Love

Cupid arrows, chocolate covered cherries, cute stuffed animals, huge balloons, and red flowers have blossomed all over the stores. There is hardly a store (including gas stations) that has not been inundated with Valentine’s Day paraphernalia. But this does not represent true love. This is romantic fantasy love which is highly elusive.

Unfortunately, many people have twisted definitions of love born out of dysfunctional parenting, misguided youth, or hurtful connections. These erroneous perceptions of love can...

Coping Skills

An Interesting Mix: Male Borderline Personality Disorder

Typically Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is viewed as a female disorder but it is not. Just like their female counterparts, males also have an intense and persistent fear of abandonment that permeants nearly every relationship. It could manifest in a marital or partner relationship, a father to a child relationship, or an employer to an employee relationship.

Early on in life, male BPD is often confused with oppositional defiant disorder, attention deficit disorder, intermittent explosive disorder,...

Coping Skills

Trouble in the Making: Personality Disorders Mixed with Depression

Depression has its own signs and symptoms but when mixed with a personality disorder (PD) it can be more elusive. Each PD has a different manifestation of depression with varying levels of intensity. While not all depression becomes homicidal or suicidal, the risks for this possibility are presented as a word of caution. The following are the PDs most likely to raise a red flag.

Anti-Social PD (Sociopath and Psychopath): This is the hardest of...

Coping Skills

How Not to Cope with a Narcissist

Dysfunctional behavior applies to everyone. It’s not just the narcissist who is flawed in their perception and responses. The people around them frequently utilize maladjusted coping mechanisms (or defense mechanisms) in an attempt to handle the toxic situation or manage the narcissism.

Here are some real-life examples: An employee realizes their boss is a narcissist but idealizes their success and strives to be just like them. A child knows their parent is different, controlling, reactionary and...

Coping Skills

A Borderline’s Emotional Reaction Cycle

One minute everything seems fine, even happy, and then in an instant things turn. The joyful mood is quickly replaced by hurt, dramatic expression, and anger over what appears to be a small matter. After that, things escalate rapidly as accusations fly, feelings intensify, threats heighten, and absolutes accelerate.

For those experiencing this for the first time, it can be shocking. For others, this pattern regularly manifests when in a relationship with a person diagnosed with...

General

Projective Identification: How Narcissists Project Their Identity Onto Others

A client walked into my office for the first time and began to describe her husband as a narcissist. They had been married for 15 years, had two children, were well-established in the community, and were both very career-oriented. She came across an article about narcissism and concluded that her husband fit the profile. Not interested in getting a divorce, she wanted to learn how to manage his narcissism.

But something seemed a bit off about...

Family

Why Marriages Fail After 25 Years

It’s shocking. After 25 years of marriage, a couple decides to get a divorce. From the outside looking in, things could not be any stranger. The pressures of establishing a career have subsided, the kids have grown-up (and hopefully moved out), and a desired lifestyle has been obtained. After all, surely this couple has been though just about everything and survived it. Or have they?

It is precisely when a lack of distractions from career, kids,...