The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

Living with Someone Who Has Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

From the outside looking in, things look perfect. That is precisely the impression a person with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) intends to give. They seem to be the model spouse, parent, friend, and most especially employee. And they have many rewards, honors, recognitions, and promotions to prove it. But like many people suffering from a personality disorder, things are not what they seem from the inside looking out.

OCPD is not the same...


The Three Personality Disorders Prevalent in Religious Environments

If only churches, synagogues, and mosques were safe places for people to learn about God and grow spiritually. But sadly, many are not. Rather, they can become safe places for three of the most intense personality disorders. Regardless of the religious belief system that a person subscribes to, these three disorders can be found within the leadership structure of many religious organizations.

Why? Because followers of the organization come with an honest desire to grow spiritually,...

Coping Skills

Understanding the Impact of Trauma at Any Age

Significant trauma can cause PTSD, anxiety, grief, and depression at any age. But it can also have lasting effects even after a person has recovered. A childhood tragedy might lie dormant for many years until triggered by a similar event, person or reaction. Teenage disasters might cripple the growth of a budding adult leaving them perpetually immature. A catastrophe as an adult might spark a negative outcome of a mid-life crisis.

Understanding the overall impact of...


What Narcissists and People Pleasers Have in Common

Narcissists and people pleasers seem to be drawn towards each other. While opposites do attract, there are some similarities that keep the connection powerful.

Priorities. Narcissists think of themselves first and very little of others; people pleasers think of others and very little of themselves. Both however believe that their way of prioritizing is right. It is not. The neglect of others (narcissism) is selfish and causes unnecessary distance, confrontation and lack of...


7 Ways to Encourage Positive Change

Ever wonder what makes a person change for the better? The role of a counselor is to encourage healthy change. Many psychology schools teach the concept of unconditional positive regard as an effective method of transformation. The basic principle lies in accepting and supporting a person without judgement regardless of what they say or do. This provides an environment of trust, understanding, and grace which allows a person to grow.

It is not easy to...

Coping Skills

Embracing Grief Is a Healthy Way to Move Forward

Not everyone grieves in the same way.  People have different physical appearances, perspectives, experiences, thoughts, emotions, backgrounds, relationships, and attitudes.  So when it comes to grieving, there are many healthy forms with the exception of one: not grieving.

Embracing grief is a willingness to accept the fluctuating emotions, random thoughts, internal struggles, constant questions, and ever-shifting environment. But “accept” does not mean enjoy. Grieving is hard work, time-consuming, and emotionally draining. Yet it is a necessary...

Coping Skills

Orlando is Suffering From Secondary Traumatic Stress

Orlando is suffering from Secondary Traumatic Stress (STS) with all of the continuous news reports, life stories of the victims, personal experiences of the first responders, FB posts from family and friends, and changes in everyday life.

For those living in the area, simple things like going to the grocery store (normally a ten minute drive) can take as long as an hour. The reminder that the community has forever changed is evident by the...

Coping Skills

Still in Shock: My Home, Orlando, Florida

The stages of grief apply to communities as well. I live in the historic district of downtown Orlando, a mile from the nightclub as the crow flies. My doctor’s office, grocery story, coffee shop, bagel store and daughter’s high school are all within a few block radius of the worst massacre in the United States. Orlando is my home. We are all still in the first stage of grief of shock, mixed with horror, over...


What Type of Divorce Do You Want

No one gets married wanting to go through a divorce. But unfortunately, it happens even to the best of couples. Irreconcilable differences, affairs, addiction, abuse, or abandonment are some of the reasons a person decides a divorce is the only solution. But before the next move is made, consider these different types of separating.

Roll over and play dead. This is the least effective method of divorcing. One spouse controls all aspects of the divorce process...


Loving Someone with Attention-Deficit Disorder

After enjoying a nice meal at a restaurant, the bill is presented. The person with attention-deficit disorder (ADD) realizes their wallet is at work.


At home, the search for the car keys lasts over an hour, only to discover that the keys are in the ignition.


On the way to crossing a border during vacation, it is revealed that the passport has been left at the last hotel.

This is everyday life with a person who has ADD....