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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Exhaustion

Five Things to do Today When in a Relationship with a Narcissist

It’s hard to avoid narcissists. They seem to be everywhere, multiplying in great numbers. It reminds me of the old Star Trek episode with the Tribbles who reproduced at such a rapid rate that the ship was in danger of being overtaken in a matter of days. At first the Tribbles were cute to watch but then they became threatening. And so it is with narcissism.

What can a person do to counteract this...

Coping Skills

Difference between Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

It is amazing the difference one word can make. Add the word “Personality” to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and it changes the definition and classification. There are some similarities such as obsessive and compulsive traits, thoughts and actions. However the underlying disorder is extremely different.

Here is the DSM-5 definition of both:

Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is classified as a type of personality disorder:

A pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism,...

Coping Skills

How to Live with an Anxious Person

It is normal to feel anxious when highway traffic goes from full speed to a screeching halt in a matter of seconds. Or when your child’s school gets placed on lockdown and all you get is a notification from the media. Or when the credit card bill statements come in larger than expected. Or when the doctor’s office leaves a message that the doctor wants to deliver test results in person. These...

Children & Teens

Understanding the Shooters at Columbine from a Mother’s Perspective

After sixteen years, I can still remember the day of the Columbine shootings. Two high school students, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, injured 24 people, killed 13 and then killed themselves. The media coverage continued for months with many stories of the deaths and survivors of the tragedy. Admittedly, I did not give much thought to the families of the two shooters except to dismiss them as examples of poor parenting....

Coping Skills

Top Ten Wrong Assumptions about Personality Disorders

After working with many persons diagnosed with a personality disorder and their family members, there are several mistaken assumptions that seem to be commonly held. Here are ten of these errors:

Personality Traits = Personality Disorder. A person can have the traits of a personality disorder without being fully diagnosed. For instance, they may demonstrate narcissistic behavior at work but not at home. In order to be a personality disorder, the symptoms...

Coping Skills

Understanding Schizoid Personality Disorder

The name “schizoid” was coined in the early 1900’s. Yet it is not similar to schizophrenia, schizoaffective, or schizotypal.  Rather, it is closer in identity to avoidant personality disorder with many of the same characteristics and traits but adds the element of a blunt affect.  Perhaps the best definition of a schizoid is a person who pulls away from others and their own emotions or feelings thereby creating flat emotionless...

Family

The Narcissistic Family: A Narcissist, An Exhausted Spouse and Anxious Children

The level of stress surrounding a narcissistic family is intense from the inside and picture perfect from the outside. As a member of the family (narcissists excluded), there is a constant state of walking on eggshells, questioning what did or did not happen, and minimizing personal feelings while elevating the narcissist’s feelings. From the outside looking in, the family seems to function perfectly in-tune and any hint of issue is...

General

Before Marrying Again… Ask These Questions

The first marriage ended in divorce. The second one is going to be different. But how can a person be sure that they are not making another mistake of a different caliber?

This is a checklist that I use with clients during premarital counseling. It has been developed over the last 15 years spent counseling thousands of couples prior to marriage.

Ask clients to look through the following checklist and check all that...

General

The Frustration of Dealing with Narcissistic In-Laws

Hold on tight and get ready for a roller-coaster of a ride when marrying into a narcissistic family. At first the Narcissistic Parent (NP) will seem amazingly charming and the concerns the Adult Child (AC) expresses appear to be exaggerations.  But give it some time and everything will change overnight. Here are some points to keep in mind when dealing with NPs:

It all begins with an engagement. Casual dating is not that threating...

General

The Importance of Dating Your Spouse

As a counselor who has worked with over a thousand couples, I’m still shocked by the resistance that comes from a simple suggestion of dating your spouse. After all, it is not a new concept. There are hundreds of books, seminars, conferences, youtube videos, and articles detailing the benefits of regularly dating your spouse.  Yet many still see this as a waste of time, energy and money.

In the beginning, the reason...