The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

How Flattery Can Be Abusive

It’s easy to identify bullying, intimidation, physical restraint, or molestation as abusive. But what about other, more subtle forms of abuse that seem on the surface to be kind and generous, then are not. Think of it as a mask of deception used to control, manipulate, and eventually abuse. To the outside world the mask may appear to be attractive, but to the person on the receiving end it feels like a hidden form of...

Coping Skills

Five Ways a Narcissist Comes Unglued

The angry outburst of a narcissist is like a two-year-old temper tantrum. It appears out of nowhere, creates an unnecessary scene, and shocks others into inaction. It is the ultimate in selfish behavior as everything immediately becomes about them and what they want. Just like a child, a narcissist cannot tell the difference between what they need and what they want. The two things are exactly the same and as such an angry rant...


7 Ways to Taper Exhausting People

How much different would life be if that exhausting person wasn’t a constant source of frustration? Whether the person is a family member, colleague, neighbor or friend, just being around them can spark anxiety over the pending apprehension. Exhaustion can come from being too needy, controlling, manipulative, demanding, passive-aggressive, selfish, entitled, clingy, argumentative, restrictive, secretive or abusive.

It is normal to be physically overwhelmed from long hours at work children, overloading of electronic stimulus,...


It’s Time to Banish New Year’s Resolutions

One of the most difficult therapeutic processes is confronting the forgotten oaths/promises/resolutions a person has unconsciously internalized which continue to cause harm. Oaths are made to never forget the pain of a broken heart. Promises are forged of not turning into a dysfunctional parent. Resolutions are created out of childhood trauma.

Then ironically, as if one broken desire is not enough, society encourages the pattern to restart every year. In Roman mythology, the god Janus...


How Narcissistic Parenting Breeds Devastation

Ideally, a child is given the freedom to explore and express their individuality so they can develop into a confident and well-balanced adult. This nurturing environment prioritizes the needs of the child over the parent without overindulgence. But this is not the case when one parent is a narcissist.

Most children are unaware of their dysfunctional narcissistic parent as they fully accept the parent’s false perception of reality. However, when critical thinking kicks in around...


10 Reasons Depression Worsens During the Holidays

Ever wonder why depression seems so much worse during the holiday season? Some of the reasons may be a surprise, while others seem very obvious. Each one of these are based on real personal struggles.

Humbuggery. This word is made famous in Charles Dicken’s story, A Christmas Carol, where Scrooge frequently says, “Bah-Humbug.” The pure meaning of the word is a pretense or deception. During this time of year, the gap between the happy...


How to Come Out of the Abuse Fog

It finally hit. After years of wondering what was wrong, who was crazy, and how did this happen, the reality of behavior as abusive hits like a ton of bricks. The insight is simultaneously overwhelming, shocking, frustrating, disgusting, and demeaning. But there it is: the answer that was longed for was never fully considered until this moment. Then everything became clear.

At first, it seems as if a thousand miles can be seen at once...


10 Ways to Beat Holiday Stress

Instead of the song lyric “It’s the most wonderful time of the year,” holidays can be ‘the most stressful time of the year.’  With all there is to do (gifting, decorating, and baking), places to go (cocktail parties, family gatherings, and school recitals), and people to see (friends, family and colleagues), life can feel overwhelming. Here are ten ways to reduce the exhaustion:

Simplify. It is often the addition of things, people, and activities...

Children & Teens

Is My Child A Narcissist?

With the definition and examples of narcissism so prevalent in our culture, it is easy to wonder if a child is a budding narcissist. This is especially concerning when those examples are prominent sports athletes, glorified actors/actresses, or dominate leaders in politics or business that the child admires. So how does a person know if a child is a narcissist?

After reading the definition of narcissism, nearly every two-year-old will appear narcissistic. Most children, however,...

Coping Skills

The Act of Suicide Adds to the Grieving Process

It is generally accepted that there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Following a death, these stages can be done consecutively or in a mixed order. There is no proper way to manage grief other than to go through the entire process and not stay stuck in denial.

However, when the cause of death is suicide, this adds an additional three stages to the grieving process and changes how the...