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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Children & Teens

7 Types of Parental Abuse

A bruise should not be the requirement for evidence of parental abuse. There are many other ways a child can be harmed. While this list may not be all inclusive, it is meant to expand on the traditional definition of child abuse. Most states recognize some aspects of sexual abuse, physical abuse, or neglect but fail to fully address them while completely disregarding mental, verbal, emotional, financial, and spiritual. This list provides an opportunity...

Family

5 Tips for Tackling your Spouse’s Narcissistic Family

There are some days when the thought of knocking down a relative or in-law seems tempting. This is especially true following an unforeseen passive-aggressive personal attack. But if this person is a narcissist, they seem to have the resilience of a linebacker who takes the blow just to bounce back up again with even more determination to dominate the next time.

Winning in such an environment feels like a lost cause. Many happily settle for...

Work

19 Reasons for Chronic Underperformance

By the mid-40’s certain aspects of a person’s personality become very apparent. One of these things is work productivity. While there can be socioeconomic reasons for underperformance, after twenty years, a person is able to rise above even the most difficult of times. There is a warning however, being productive and being successful are not the same, so this not about accomplishment.

Nor is this about a teenager or someone in their twenties. For them, underperformance...

Coping Skills

The Secret Façade of the Vulnerable Narcissist

At first, they seem so quiet and unobtrusive; a refreshing break from the normal banter of one-up-man-ship that frequently dominates an initial conversation. But then the sly remarks characteristic of inattentiveness began, along with a victimization mentality where the whole world is out to get them, and hypersensitivity to unintentional disparaging comments. The switch is so dramatic that it is hardly noticeable until it becomes unnerving.

The narcissistic qualities of a vulnerable narcissist (VN) are...

Coping Skills

Top 10 Holiday Defense Mechanisms

For many, the stress of the holidays is overwhelming. The anticipation of family gatherings alone can create anxious, tense, and uncomfortable responses. Then there are the personal expectations of gift giving, the lack of appropriate boundaries of friends, and the increased tension of an end-of-the-year work cycle.

Sorting through these conflicting thoughts and emotions can be difficult. Fortunately, Freud identified common coping strategies that many people utilize which he referred to as defense mechanisms. Here is...

Family

7 Tips for Surviving the Holidays with a Narcissist

As if life with a narcissist wasn’t bad enough on a regular basis, add the holidays into the mix and it becomes chaotic. Narcissists want the best-looking house on the block with extreme decorating measures just to outdo the neighbors and relatives. The food is Martha Stewart-worthy (even when it is purchased and made to look homemade), the clothes are the latest fashion trend, the parties are legendary but so are the rants and...

Exhaustion

Narcissism and Politics: A Match Made In…

Is it a match made in heaven or hell? Most likely, this depends on your perspective. Either way, it is viewed, narcissism is well-rewarded in politics and the political environment seems to like narcissists. That could not have been more evident in the past presidential election.

How does this happen? Well, there are several ways the two are an ideal match:

Attention-seeking. By nature, narcissists are constantly seeking a platform from which to garnish attention....

Exhaustion

What Is a Narcissist?

The word “Narcissist” has its origins in Greek mythology. Around 8 , there is a story about a beautiful hunter named Narcissus who was exceptionally proud. In order to expose his arrogance, Nemesis (a longstanding rival and the origin of the word nemesis) drew him to a pool of water.  Narcissus, upon seeing his reflection and not realizing it was his own image, became so attracted to himself that he refused to leave. He later...

Coping Skills

The Anxiety of Living in a Military Family

 As a mom with a child in the military, every time a news story breaks of a military death, my heart and breathing literally stop. It doesn’t matter what branch, location/country, circumstance, on base, off base, or in the line of duty, life comes to a screeching halt. A flood of emotions takes over any logic at the moment as all five senses become hyper-aware of the potential crisis. It usually takes reading or listening...

Exhaustion

Spiritual Elitism: Narcissism of the Masses

Several years ago I attended a private function at a highly esteemed religious institution (neither the name nor the type of religion is relevant to this article). I was excited to meet face-to-face people who possessed an excellent reputation and were valued among the masses of their religion. The nature of the engagement allowed these leaders to be in a more natural environment where they could let their guard down. Unfortunately, the excitement was...