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Why Some People Feel Guilty Over Everything

Do you have a continually guilty client?  A person who feels bad over things they have no control over? A person who takes responsibility for other’s mistakes? Or a person who can’t seem to rest because there is so much to do?

Frequently their thoughts of “I should not have”, “I can’t believe I did this”, “I feel so bad”, or “I wish I could” plague their mind. In addition, they mistakenly believe that everyone else thinks...

Exhaustion

What Causes Exhaustion?

For many clients, the physical manifestation of exhaustion is a symptom of deeper psychological issues. They may report feeling tired, overwhelmed, anxious, or even depressed. On the surface, they may have too many activities, feel responsible for others, reject setting boundaries, strive to look perfect, or be driven to excel. While all of these things contributue to their exhaustion, the underlying reason maybe much deeper.

Here is an example from my personal life:

When my daughter was younger,...

General

Why Some People Doubt Everything

Do you have a client who doubts nearly everything they did? The issue could be resolved yet they still question past decisions or actions. Their doubtfulness even extends into future choices parellizing them long before an act is required. How can they be free from this?

Erik Erikson in his eight stages of psychosocial development explains that between the ages of two and four a child learns either confidence or doubt.  His second stage of development, Autonomy...

Exhaustion

15 Narcissistic Religious Abuse Tactics

If you suspect religious abuse, ask your clients this: is spiritual perfectionism demanded?  Are you terrified of not being accepted? Does the narcissist in your life have crazily ridiculous implausible spiritual expectations?

There was a time when your religious beliefs brought you companionship and peace, but now you struggle with intimacy, insecurity, and comparison. You used to find security in your faith, but now there is only sanctuary in ceremonies and rituals. How did you get...

Exhaustion

How Exhaustion in Women Decreases Sex Drive

Rosa’s sex drive was strong just a few short years ago, but now it had severely tapered off and threatened her marriage. In all other areas of her life, she was successful. She owned a small business, married for 15 years, and had two wonderful children. But this area eluded her. Just the thought of having sex exhausted her. Tired of initiating, her husband eventually stopped asking resulting in increased tension.

Perhaps your story...

Coping Skills

Stop the Cycle of Abuse: Countering the Narcissistic Rant

The cycle of abuse by a narcissist is frustrating. It begins with an upsetting event. The narcissist, feeling threatened, then reacts abusively. Tired of the assault, the abused defensively fights back. The narcissist justifies the abused behavior as further evidence that the narcissist is being abused. Once the abused have given in or up, the narcissist feels empowered and the pattern continues.

Getting off this insane merry-go-round can be difficult but not impossible. Try these...

General

Why Some People Don’t Trust Others

Have you ever wondered why some people can't trust?  Maybe they are a client, a spouse, or a friend. Despite positive efforts of encouragement, they still struggle with being able to trust. It seems they automatically distrust everyone including safe people.

There are some concepts that psychology does really well. One that has stood the test of time is Erik Erikson’s Eight Stages of Psychosocial Development. The first stage from birth to eighteen months...

Exhaustion

The Curse of the Overly Responsible Exhausted Woman

Many women struggle with feeling like they are the only responsible person at work and home. While there can be many unhealthy reasons for this, one of them stems from a normal healthy attachment. Their maternal instinct of caring for their children sometimes spills into the work environment. The result is an unhealthy desire to protect and care for co-workers.

Doing everyone else’s work is exhausting and often provokes them to anger. This frequently manifests...

Coping Skills

Why are you so angry?

It happens.  You are driving down the left side of highway slightly faster than normal because you are late.  Suddenly someone cuts you off causing the breaks to be slamed and almost results in an accident.  Instantly, feelings of rage emerge.

Or your spouse promises they will be home by a certain time. You make plans but your spouse doesn’t show up, answer the phone or even call.  By the time they arrive home, all...

Coping Skills

The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

The cycle of abuse Lenore Walker (1979) coined of tension building, acting-out, reconciliation/honeymoon, and calm is useful in most abusive relationships. However, when a narcissist is an abuser, the cycle looks different.

Narcissism changes the back end of the cycle because the narcissist is continuously self-centered and unwilling to admit fault.  Their need to be superior, right, or in charge limits the possibility of any real reconciliation. Instead, it is frequently the abused who desperately...