The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

Understanding Depressive Personality Trait

Depressive Personality (DP) is not the same thing as depression.  The two can look the same as the symptoms are similar.  The major difference is that a DP person can also have depression but a person with depression is not necessarily DP.

One type of depression is situational such as grieving the loss of a friend. Another is chemical such as overproduction of certain hormones.  By contrast, DP is a personality trait and is not...


How to Overcome Expectation Exhaustion

An expectation can be positive or negative, realistic or unrealistic, about behavior or performance, increase anxiety or relieve stress, and result in disappointment or surprise. There are two sources of expectations: internal and external. Internal expectations are rooted in beliefs, grounded by experience and flourish though thoughts. In contrast, others impose external expectations based on their beliefs, experience or thoughts.

It is easy to see how a negative expectation would increase exhaustion. Anticipating the death...

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Understanding Antisocial Personality Disorder

The name “Antisocial” does not adequately explain the disorder.  It is similar to calling an aggressively trained pit bull, an unfriendly puppy.  The former names of psychopath or sociopath are much more understandable and create a more immediate comprehension.  Since APDs (Antisocial Personality Disorder) tend not to care too much about what other people think, this name is not likely the result of political correctness.

So what is APD?  Here is the technical...


How to Overcome Obsessive Thinking

Obsessive thinking is pondering the same point over and over with no new insight or outcome. Remember the old vinyl records? When there was a scratch on the record, the needle would go back and play the same small section repeatedly until the needle was lifted. That is obsessive thinking.

The thoughts don’t have to be violent or sexual to be obsessive (although they can be both). They can be about virtually anything. The key...

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Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

The name Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) often gets confused with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but it is definitely not the same.  It is however the same in that there are obsessive and compulsive traits, thoughts, and actions.

For instance, OCDs are obsessed with being clean and therefore do compulsive behaviors such as excessive hand washing.  Generally speaking the OCD is limited to a few areas or environments.  In contrast, OCPD is not....

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Identifying Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

Too much attention is given to narcissistic behavior with little consideration offered to the victims of it. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is clearly defined in the DSM-5. Many subtypes have been offered, books written and seminars taught. But what about the abuse some victims have suffered?

Several names have been tossed around to describe what happens to these victims. Some have called it Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS), Trauma-Associated Narcissistic Symptoms (TANS), or Post Traumatic Narcissism...

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Strategies for Combatting Verbal Abuse

The 1800’s nursery rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is not true for most people. Some people do have the natural ability to emotionally disconnect when being insulted.  (They usually struggle with being emotionally engaged in pleasant circumstances as well.) For everyone else, words have meaning and they can hurt a person.

This is precisely what the abuser is depending on: the victim is hurt by...


Understanding Paranoid Personality Disorder

Some people truly believe that everyone is out to get them.  They have baseless suspicions of family, friends, co-workers, the trash man, the police, or even the cashier at the grocery store intentionally harming them. They imagine hostile conversations and project their irrational fears as real motives of others. When confronting the accusations, they insist the problem is everyone else. They are paranoid.

So what is Paranoid Personality Disorder?  Here is the technical definition...


Understanding Dependent Personality Disorder

The word “dependent” is the perfect descriptive word to summarize Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD).  DPDs need other people for all areas of emotional support and affirmation. Frequently, they are reliant on one particular person such as a spouse, parent, or adult child.  Often, their dependence is in direct contrast to the other person who is usually very independent.

So what is DPD?  Here is the technical definition according to the DSM-V:

A pervasive and excessive need...


Understanding Avoidant Personality Disorder

In a social media rich environment where a person is frequently overexposed, those with Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD) are a welcome change. APD pretty much sums up the disorder in one name.  In nearly every environment of family, work, or community involvement, APDs avoid social interaction.  Think of a recluse, hermit, outsider, lone wolf, or loner who likes being that way and in fact prefers to live that way and that is your...