The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC


How to Talk to a Person Who Has Been Raped

The numerous sexual assault cases that stemmed from the MeToo movement has reignited old stereotypes about rape and abuse. Some new acquaintances of mine, who were unaware of my vocation, commented on their dissatisfaction with the outing of several public figures. Rather than argue my position, I chose to listen to a barrage of ignorance and blame casing. After all, my primary job is to listen and begin from a place of understanding. However, even...


29 Manipulative Text Messages

Bill was frustrated. The more he tried to converse via text with his ex-wife and kids, the worse things got. He was advised to utilize text messages rather than verbal communication to have a record of what was agreed upon, clear up any confusion, and minimize the verbal assaults. However, his ex-wife found a way to manipulate him through text messages. Worse yet, she taught her kids the same tactics.

Abuse comes in many forms. The...


5 Ways to Avoid Being Someone’s Scapegoat

Jerome came into his counseling session angry. The position at work that he worked so hard to obtain was now in jeopardy. He couldn’t understand how this happened so quickly. One day he seemed to be everyone’s favorite new employee and the next day he was an outcast. But as he began to recount his story, a few things became clear.

His new boss was so charming in the beginning that he wondered why others had...


7 Things to Do When Afraid of Your Ex

It had been years since Susan heard from her ex-husband. He would send the occasional random text message with some type of mime or joke, but nothing of substance until today. Today’s remarks came across brash and accusatory. He demanded a face-to-face meeting with Susan and made a threatening remark if she refused.

Puzzled by his sudden verbal attack, Susan anxiously began rehashing the last several weeks and questioning her responses. But what she failed to...


The Rules of Living in a Narcissistic Family

Every family has unspoken rules like: don’t wake mom when she is taking a nap, no matter what it tastes like say dad’s cooking is good, or always clean before grandma comes to the house. These guidelines are followed without question to keep the family running smoothly.

However, when a narcissist is added to the mix, the rules take on more intensity. The consequences for not following the guidelines are severe such as giving a person...


The 7 Main Types of Abuse

Most state protective services constitute abuse to be neglect, sexual, or physical. But a bruise should not be a requirement for proof of abusive behavior. There are many other ways a person can be abused. Abuse can be manipulation, exploitation, maltreatment, neglect, violence, cruelty, harm, hurt, ill-treatment, and exploitive. The seven ways it is manifested is through physical, mental, verbal, emotional, financial, sexual and spiritual. The following list is not inclusive but rather provides an...


Narcissistic Abuse: Cyberbullying and Cyberstalking

Shirley thought that the abuse from her narcissistic husband would be over after the divorce was finalized. But it wasn’t. Instead, he found a new way to harass, embarrass, and torment her. He began to cyberbully and cyberstalk.

She noticed at first that he was liking or using the angry face her Facebook posts. When she didn’t respond, he made a sarcastic comment. Even after she would delete his comments, he would make another one even...


23 Ways You Could be Cyberstalked

During his divorce, Mark became aware of strange things happening to him on his social media and personally. Some of his friends began posting things that seemed to be about him without directly naming him. His soon-to-be-ex kept posting meme’s about crazy husbands. Then she began randomly appearing where he was, introducing herself to whomever he was with, and sending him excessive text messages through the day.

Confused and frustrated, Mark researched cyberharassment and found all...


13 Types of Relationship Affairs

What is an affair? It is a sexual encounter, romantic comrade, or obsessive attachment between two people without a significant other’s knowledge. It can come in many forms but all of them have the underlying issue of a betrayal of trust, unfaithfulness to a commitment, and infidelity of the relationship. Sometimes it destroys the initial relationship and other times the relationship can survive.

Over the years of counseling thousands of people, there have been many incidents...


Narcissistic Rescuers: Beware of the Backlash

The narcissist appears at the optimal time. A grieving family is destroyed over the death of a parent and is in desperate need of emotional stability. A spouse is torn apart by divorce and is starved for normal amounts of positive attention. A friend is destroyed by the betrayal of another and is craving a close relationship for support.

Now, enter the narcissist.  Hidden by a veil of perfection, the narcissist immediately endears themselves to the...