The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

What are Panic Attacks?

As Pam was driving on a highway bridge overpass, she was suddenly struck with the thought that the bridge could collapse and she would die. She had driven on this overpass a dozen times without ever thinking twice about it so she dismissed the thought as ridiculous. But that did not work. Almost immediately, her heart started pounding, she was sweating profusely, her breathing became labored, and felt like she was going to vomit. She...


7 Steps of Change for a Positive Narcissistic Mid-Life Crisis

Chuck knew he was a jerk. He cheated on his wife several times, put his work before his family, rarely went to his kid’s activities, drank heavily on the rare occasions that he was home, and verbally berated anyone who challenged him. And yet, he was a highly successful businessman, intelligent about a wide range of topics, had numerous friends, and was charming (when he wanted to be). Nonetheless, despite getting his way most of...

Coping Skills

11 Traps That Kill Conversation

As Tad hung up the phone, he realized he did it again. He fell for the trap and now it is over. Tad wanted so much to have a relationship with his estranged adult daughter that he kept trying to converse with her. But at nearly every turn, she set a trap for him to get upset or emotional and then she would shut it down saying he was out of control.

Susan experienced something similar...


13 Signs Your Relationship is Dependent

Kevin was looking for reasons to stay late at work to avoid going home. The previous night had so exhausted him that he relished the extra work assignments as excuses to steer clear of his wife of 9 years. The problem was that he missed his kids and wanted to be there to tug them into bed, but he couldn’t handle another four-hour discussion in the middle of the night with his wife.

Not that the...

Coping Skills

What is Emotional Abuse?

Ron was reluctant to start the conversation with his wife, Robin, about their vacation plans this year. In years past, he would take a week off from work to spend it with her family. But her family didn’t like him so returning to work was the only part of the vacation he enjoyed. This year, he wanted it to be different. He wanted a vacation with just his wife and kids and no one else....

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What is Mental Abuse?

Brenda knew something was wrong in her marriage to Bill, but she was unable to put her finger on what. She felt like she was abused but he never hit her, so she minimized and even dismissed any warning indicators that something else was off. She was intentionally exploited by her husband; endured regular insults and rejection, alternating with affirmation; and felt manipulated into doing or saying something out of character.

Abuse is not just physical....

Coping Skills

11 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Looking back, Jack could see that his relationship with Amanda was over several months ago, perhaps even years. But he was in denial and didn’t want to confront the painful issues that were left unresolved. What was once overlooked, minimized, explained away, or discounted is now an obvious sign of his deteriorating relationship.

At first, she seemed so charming, helpful, generous, innocent, and gentle but then things turned, and an entirely different picture became apparent. Charming...

Coping Skills

How Trauma Impairs the Decision-Making Process

It was one of those perfect Florida mornings where the sun was out but not too strong, there was little humidity in the air, and the temperature was in the low 70’s. Added to that was an early spring day where the flowers are blooming, the birds were singing, and everything smelled fresh and alive. I love to take walks and enjoying an early stroll on such a day is wholly satisfying. So, it was...


11 Strategies for Successful Job Interviews

After 20 years at his company, Dave was asked to take early retirement.

He was shocked and disappointed by the suggestion. He also had no intention of retiring. The idea of playing golf, doing lunches, and gardening sounded terrible to him. He liked working and thought his company liked him. They did, they just didn’t want to pay his salary anymore.

So, Dave updated his resume and began the difficult process of interviewing. He hated everything about...

Coping Skills

My One-minute Mini Meditations

I keep a full schedule as a therapist. Every minute of my workday is planned out in advance to make the most of a moment. I work four days a week, 10-12 hours each day and see on average 30 hours of clients. The rest of my time is consumed with phone calls, emails, preparations for court, training, writing, supervising and speaking.

But I’m obsessed with my breaks. Since I specialize in working with personality disorders,...