The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

The 7 Steps of Accepting Responsibility for Wrongdoing

Everyone does something wrong. It could be gossiping about a friend, belittling a spouse, inappropriate punishment of a kid, lying to a neighbor, or stealing from work. Regardless of the offense, there are steps that a person must take to demonstrate they have accepted responsibility for their wrongdoing.

Acknowledge Internally. The first step a person takes is to admit what they did was wrong internally. This is the most critical step because it is...


11 Ways Narcissists Use Shame to Control

A weakness of a narcissist is their extreme hatred of being embarrassed. There is nothing worse for them than having someone point out even the slightest fault. Ironically, they have no problem openly doing this to others.

This method of casting shame allows them to feel superior while minimizing any impact the other person might have. It also serves as a way of discounting any future comments the other person use to embarrass the...

Coping Skills

How to Tell If a Memory is Real or False

Sometimes clients come into a first session with amazing stories. Knowing whether a story is real or false can make the difference between notifying authorities, making false accusations, referring the client, or pursuing other treatment options. I had two clients such clients.

Client A told me a story of witnessing child abuse done by a neighbor with bizarre details so I interrupted her story to ask a specific question. She lost her train of thought for...

Coping Skills

How to Confront an Abusive Person

It is hard to confront an abusive person, especially when it is a spouse, parent, employer, or child and the relationship is not easily banished. Sometimes the abuse is so intense, that the relationship must be dissolved for the safety of the victim. Other times, the abuse may be mild but nonetheless is hurtful and harmful in several ways. Here are some suggestions for handling abusive people:

See it. There are seven main ways...

Children & Teens

Is Your Kid an Addict?

According to The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, 4 out of every 25 people over the age of 12 have an addiction. When six addicts are put together, one of them will have a multiple addiction problems. This means that for every standard classroom size of 25, there are 4 middle/high school kids who are already an addict. This does not include those who will develop addiction in later years.

What is an addiction?...

Coping Skills

7 Ways Narcissists Retaliate Through Children

Divorcing a narcissist doesn’t solve everything. While the day-to-day distance can elevate the stress, anxiety, depression, and frustration of living with a narcissist, it doesn’t stop them from being narcissistic. The next party on the victimization list is often the children. But really, the narcissist is just using the children to attack the ex-spouse (ES). Here’s how:

Projection – Ex-Narcissists (EN, this is not to say that the narcissist is no...


Five Things to do Today When in a Relationship with a Narcissist

It’s hard to avoid narcissists. They seem to be everywhere, multiplying in great numbers. It reminds me of the old Star Trek episode with the Tribbles who reproduced at such a rapid rate that the ship was in danger of being overtaken in a matter of days. At first, the Tribbles were cute to watch but then they became threatening. And so it is with narcissism.

What can a person do to counteract this...

Coping Skills

Difference between Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

It is amazing the difference one word can make. Add the word “Personality” to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and it changes the definition and classification. There are some similarities such as obsessive and compulsive traits, thoughts and actions. However the underlying disorder is extremely different.

Here is the DSM-5 definition of both:

Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is classified as a type of personality disorder:

A pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism,...

Coping Skills

How to Live with an Anxious Person

It is normal to feel anxious when highway traffic goes from full speed to a screeching halt in a matter of seconds. Or when your child’s school gets placed on lockdown and all you get is a notification from the media. Or when the credit card bill statements come in larger than expected. Or when the doctor’s office leaves a message that the doctor wants to deliver test results in person. These...

Children & Teens

Understanding the Shooters at Columbine from a Mother’s Perspective

After sixteen years, I can still remember the day of the Columbine shootings. Two high school students, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, injured 24 people, killed 13 and then killed themselves. The media coverage continued for months with many stories of the deaths and survivors of the tragedy. Admittedly, I did not give much thought to the families of the two shooters except to dismiss them as examples of poor parenting....