The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

Identifying Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

Too much attention is given to narcissistic behavior with little consideration offered to the victims of it. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is clearly defined in the DSM-5. Many subtypes have been offered, books were written and seminars taught. But what about the abuse some victims have suffered?

Several names have been tossed around to describe what happens to these victims. Some have called it Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS), Trauma-Associated Narcissistic Symptoms (TANS), or Post Traumatic...

Coping Skills

Strategies for Combatting Verbal Abuse

The 1800’s nursery rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is not true for most people. Some people do have the natural ability to emotionally disconnect when being insulted.  (They usually struggle with being emotionally engaged in pleasant circumstances as well.) For everyone else, words have meaning and they can hurt a person.

This is precisely what the abuser is depending on: the victim is hurt by...


Understanding Paranoid Personality Disorder

Some people truly believe that everyone is out to get them.  They have baseless suspicions of family, friends, co-workers, the trash man, the police, or even the cashier at the grocery store intentionally harming them. They imagine hostile conversations and project their irrational fears as real motives of others. When confronting the accusations, they insist the problem is everyone else. They are paranoid.

So what is Paranoid Personality Disorder?  Here is the technical definition...


Understanding Dependent Personality Disorder

The word “dependent” is the perfect descriptive word to summarize Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD).  DPDs need other people for all areas of emotional support and affirmation. Frequently, they are reliant on one particular person such as a spouse, parent, or adult child.  Often, their dependence is in direct contrast to the other person who is usually very independent.

So what is DPD?  Here is the technical definition according to the DSM-V:

A pervasive and excessive need...


Understanding Avoidant Personality Disorder

In a social media rich environment where a person is frequently overexposed, those with Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD) are a welcome change. APD pretty much sums up the disorder in one name.  In nearly every environment of family, work, or community involvement, APDs avoid social interaction.  Think of a recluse, hermit, outsider, lone wolf, or loner who likes being that way and in fact prefers to live that way and that is your...


10 Signs of a Depressed Marriage

A depressed marriage? What is that?

Just like people can become depressed over the loss of someone they love, the economy or a real estate financial crisis, so too can a marriage suffer from depression.

A depression in marriage, however, does not mean that it is over. Rather, it is a low period in a series of highs and lows which occur in every marriage. Here are some signs of a depressed marriage:

Difficulty making even...


7 Ways a Boss Can Be Abusive

Usually, abusive behavior is discussed in the context of a marriage and parent/child relationships. But in reality, it can exist anywhere, even in a work environment. Many larger corporations address obvious abuse such as hitting or screaming though their human resource departments. Yet few businesses acknowledge the more subtle methods of abuse some bosses employ. Here are the seven ways bosses can be abusive:

Physical. Their posture is an aggressive stance or intimidating stare....


7 Steps to Conflict Resolution in a Marriage

Some marriage conflicts never seem to be resolved. This situation leaves couples arguing about the same thing over and over again. But things do not have to be this way. Most conflicts can be resolved if a consistent process is followed.

While these steps may seem time consuming at first, in the end they are saving countless hours of exhausting arguing and avoiding. In addition, allowing an issue to go unaddressed causes it to eventually...

Children & Teens

How To Know If A Teen Is In Trouble

From a developmental point of view, teenagers should act differently from their child-like self. This is the time to try on new roles, explore various passions, be adventurous and expand their critical thinking skills. They naturally move away from parental influence and begin to value peer opinions in an effort to form their own perspective. This process is essential to developing a healthy adult who makes decisions, utilizes their talents, and is comfortable with their...


How to Know If Someone Is Lying

One of the more useful techniques to develop is a basic understanding of discerning liars. While no too look the same, there are some general identification features. Some of which are utilized on lie detector tests. However, with every rule there is an exception. This methodology is not useful when dealing with pathological liars such as sociopaths, psychopaths or anti-social personality disorders.

What exactly is a lie? It is a false statement made by a person...