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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Stress

How to Know If Someone Is Lying

One of the more useful techniques to develop is a basic understanding of discerning liars. While no too look the same, there are some general identification features. Some of which are utilized on lie detector tests. However, with every rule there is an exception. This methodology is not useful when dealing with pathological liars such as sociopaths, psychopaths or anti-social personality disorders.

What exactly is a lie? It is a false statement made by a person...

Stress

Distorted Thinking Patterns Victims Adopt from Their Abuser

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One of the many consequences of abusive behavior is a change in the victim’s thinking patterns. After years of badgering, the victim finally adopts the abuser’s distorted reasoning. In many cases, the victim does not become an abuser. Rather, as they attempt to minimize further abuse, their survivor instincts take over in anticipation of the next attack and they begin to think like their abuser.

For a...

Exhaustion

Healthy and Unhealthy Expressions of Anger

Anger is expressed in one of four ways. Three out of the four types are unhealthy manifestations: aggressive, passive-aggressive and suppressive.  While only one, assertive is healthy. Most people remain consistently in one or two categories depending on the circumstances. For instance, a person might be aggressive at home (because they are more comfortable) but suppressive at work (because aggression is not tolerated).

The goal of anger management is to move a person from unhealthy expressions...

Exhaustion

Ten Tips for Victims of Sociopathic Behavior

It is apparent that something is out of sorts. At first the person who was extremely charming, almost too good to be real has now become intimidating, demanding and even threatening.  The pathological lying over trivial matters, even when caught, can no longer be ignored.  They are unreliable, unrelenting, irresponsible, disruptive, outrageous, traumatizing, insincere, unrepentant, lawless, and shameless. It appears they are sociopathic.

What can be done? Here are ten tips for the victims...

General

7 Ways a Person Can Be Abused

A bruise is not a requirement for proof of abusive behavior. There are many other ways a person can be abused. Abuse can be manipulation, exploitation, maltreatment, neglect, violence, cruelty, harm, hurt, ill-treatment, and exploitive. The seven ways it is manifested is through physical, mental, verbal, emotional, financial, sexual and spiritual. The following list is not inclusive but rather provides an opportunity to explore, evaluate and discuss any potentially destructive behavior.

Physical Abuse. Has the victim...

General

Consider This Before and After Checking the Hacked Ashley Madison List

The release of names and emails hacked from the on-line cheater’s website Ashley Madison stirs up questions of fidelity even in the best of relationships. This is especially true in light of some high profile confessions. The website promise of anonymity has been comprised and what was done in secret is now being revealed. But before checking a partner’s email address on the hacked list, consider these things.

Everyone is capable of making a mistake...

Children & Teens

Impact of a Narcissist Parent on a Child

The child and the narcissist seem like polar opposites. The narcissistic parent is typically insensitive and uncaring towards the needs of others. By contrast, their child seems overly compassionate, caring, and highly attuned (almost to the point of compulsion) to the needs of others.  The child fails to see anything wrong with their narcissistic parent and believes the parent to be near perfect.  Gratitude and praise flow off the child’s lips which is a...

Family

10 Reasons Why People Won’t Move On After Divorce

Divorce is hard. No healthy person enters into a marriage for the sole purpose of getting a divorce. Marriage is designed to be a long-term loving commitment between two people. But each person brings baggage into the marriage which can cause one or both spouses to act out inappropriately. Prolonged, unrepentant damage often leads to divorce.

Once the papers are signed, some people still refuse to move on healthily. Instead, they cling to their ex-spouse...

Children & Teens

How to Explain Death to a Child

One of the hardest realities to explain to a child is death. Especially when it is the death of a parent, sibling, beloved grandparent, close friend or even a favorite pet.  Parents generally try to protect their child from things that might harm or from things that are too difficult to understand. But unfortunately sometimes this is not possible.  When faced with this reality here are some ideas to keep in mind.

Don’t lie.  Whatever...