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The Exhausted Woman
with Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC

Coping Skills

Why are you so angry?

It happens.  You are driving down the left side of highway slightly faster than normal because you are late.  Suddenly someone cuts you off causing the breaks to be slamed and almost results in an accident.  Instantly, feelings of rage emerge.

Or your spouse promises they will be home by a certain time. You make plans but your spouse doesn’t show up, answer the phone or even call.  By the time they arrive home, all...

Coping Skills

The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

The cycle of abuse Lenore Walker (1979) coined of tension building, acting-out, reconciliation/honeymoon, and calm is useful in most abusive relationships. However, when a narcissist is an abuser, the cycle looks different.

Narcissism changes the back end of the cycle because the narcissist is continuously self-centered and unwilling to admit fault.  Their need to be superior, right, or in charge limits the possibility of any real reconciliation. Instead, it is frequently the abused who desperately...

Exhaustion

Recognizing Exhausted Woman’s Syndrome

“Burn-out” is an understatement to what some female clients’ experience. After other severe diagnoses have been ruled out, anxiety mixed with depression might be the closest explanation. But the long term presence, the feelings of depletion, and the chronic nature of stress symptoms, is  beyond anxiety.

If this sounds familiar, then they might be suffering from Exhausted Woman’s Syndrome (EWS).  Check of the following symptoms with your client:

Over-annoyed – Little things set you...

Marriage

How a Narcissist Treats Their Spouse

Sometimes the charm of a narcissist inhibits your client from seeing the narcissism. When your client first met their spouse, there was something about them that was enticing. It seemed like an irresistible pull to someone who so perfectly matched their needs and wants. However, the fairy tale engagement and marriage came to an abrupt halt the day they walked down the aisle.

The narcissistic spouse said your client changed and they believed. So desperate to...

Coping Skills

The Difference Between an Obsession and an Addiction

Helping  your clients discern between an obsession and an addition can be quite a challenge. They may believe their behavior is obsessive when in reality it is addictive. The distinction between the two determines they type of treatment necessitated.

An obsession and an addiction can look the same but the root is different.  For instance, they gamble every week spending approximately $10 on lottery tickets. Gambling in this example is the behavior that can be...

Coping Skills

How to Establish Boundaries with Difficult People

Are your clients struggling with difficult people in their lives? As a clinician, there is a huge temptation to diagnose the difficult person and then dismiss them as unhealthy. But sometimes it is not easy to separate because they may be a spouse, parent, employer, or neighbor.

Developing boundaries with your client is the best alternative. Boundaries help the client feel more in control of the situation while setting limitations for their own reaction. Here are...

Marriage

Five Types of Physical Abuse Narcissists Use on Spouses

Have your clients experienced a time when their narcissistic spouse lost control and became scary angry?  Did they cause physical pain? Do your clients feel that somehow they provoked it?

Narcissistic spouses will blame others for their abusive behavior. “You made me upset,” “If you won’t say this (or act that way), then I won’t have to get so forceful,” or “It is because of you that I’m like this” are all typical remarks. Usually, these...

Work

How Exhaustion in Women Decreases Work Productivity

Samantha believed things would be easier with her latest promotion. But they weren’t. Things were actually worse.

The increase in income helped, but the demands of her job meant less time for her family. Her high standards, which contributed greatly to her success, now impeded her both at work and home. Disappointed about her performance, Samantha’s exhaustion grew into paralysis.

Perhaps you have clients with similar stories. In the past, multi-tasking came naturally. They even gained...

Stress

10 Ways to Improve Body Image

Are your clients consumed with negative thoughts about their looks? How much of their time is spent obsessing over body image?

We live in a culture fixated with outward appearances. This body image obsession breeds discontentment and discontentment in turn causes money to be spent. Advertisements, TV, social media, magazines, and the internet bombard with images of false perfection. Consumers spend billions of dollars on everything from simple diets to major plastic surgery trying to look...

Marriage

Eight Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use on Spouses

If you have clients who are intentionally exploited by their spouses; endure regular insults and rejection, alternating with affirmation; and feel manipulated into doing or saying something out of character, then they might be experiencing abuse.

Abuse is not just physical. There are many other forms of abuse, such as sexual, financial, emotional, mental, and verbal. While some of the other forms of abuse are obvious, mental abuse by a narcissist can be difficult to spot.

It starts...