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Coping Skills

The Power of Intentional Self-Talk


After being in an abusive relationship for over 10 years, Marvin could not get it together. He had finally left the relationship, severed the ties, got some counseling, and even moved away but he was still struggling. The harmful words of his ex still rang in his ears. He would hear her voice in his head as if she was still there. “You’re stupid.” “You’ll never succeed.” “You’re such a loser, no one wants you.”

Worse yet,...

Coping Skills

Your Reaction to Criticism Unveils Your Psyche

There are split-second moments in everyone’s life that reveals the inner workings of a person. A micro gesture of an upward turned part of the mouth in combination with a slightly closed eye might signal contempt for another person. However, this quick moment is easily missed by an untrained eye. But you don’t have to be that in-tuned to another person’s body language in order to figure them out.

Instead, their response to criticism is highly unveiling....

Coping Skills

How to Successfully Transition Major Life Events


Since the time you progressed from crawling to walking as an infant, life has been a series of major and minor transitions. There was growth from one school year to the next. There were interests, traumas, and accomplishments that impacted future decisions about career, hobbies, and adventure. And there were changes in relationship status from single, married, divorced, dating, or widowed. Each shift brings new challenges, opportunities, possibilities, and potential failures.

Sometimes the transition is gradual, while...

Children & Teens

What is Co-Parenting?


After two years of hearings, depositions, mediations, and negotiations, Megan and Nate finally had a settlement agreement on their divorce. The process was grueling and their three kids were tired of the fighting. But now it is over and everything can return to some sort of new normal. Or can it?

As if things weren’t bad enough during the divorce, now Megan and Nate began the hard part of the process: co-parenting. But what exactly is this?...

Children & Teens

10 Ways to Improve Connection


Ralph was puzzled. While he struggled with social connection his whole life, he was making a conscious effort to be different now. Yet, the harder he tried to connect with his wife, kids, co-workers, and friends, the worse things got. The more he tried to “be real” by openly sharing his thoughts and feelings the more distant others became. His attempt at sharing his thoughts about how to improve his daughter’s art project was disastrous. This...

Coping Skills

The 5 Powerful Painful Events that Transform Lives


Marie and her twin sister Rose had the same childhood experiences. They went to the same schools, had the same teachers, liked the same activities and enjoyed the same friends. Yet as they got older, Marie excelled in her job, had a stable marriage, and was satisfied with her achievements. Meanwhile, Rose became an alcoholic, had an abusive relationship, and was unable to hold a steady job.

How is it that two people with similar experiences can...

General

Are You a Narcissist?


Brenda stumbled upon the definition of narcissism while googling difficult bosses. Curious, she began reading several articles on the subject. At first, she only saw her boss as narcissistic but as she explored further, she began to wonder if she was a narcissist. Several of the characteristics ran true over the course of her life while only a few seemed to be sustaining.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is one of nine diagnosable personality disorders. A personality disorder is...

Children & Teens

15 Tips on Parenting Budding Borderline Behavior

After several counselors, problems at school, relational difficulties, rages over nothing, irrational behavior, and now even a suicide attempt, Megan realized that something was terribly wrong with her 15-year-old daughter. Finally, a therapist who specializes in personality disorders suggested that this behavior was an early indicator of Borderline Personality Disorder.

Because the official diagnosis cannot be made until 18 years of age, the therapist was stuck explaining the disorder without being able to diagnose. According to Megan,...

Coping Skills

How to Handle Abuse

Mark’s wife began by verbally abusing him early on in the marriage. As the years progressed, so did her abusive behavior escalating into her throwing and destroying his phone. He wants to get a divorce, but also wants to wait until after his daughter graduates from high school which is about one year away.

Natalie’s boss is overbearing, demanding, sexually harassing, and downright rude. Even though she has reported some of his abusive behavior to Human...

General

How Do You Get Wisdom?

After spending an afternoon conversing with her grandfather, Stephanie realized for the first time just how wise he was. His insight was amazing. He showed compassion and patience towards frustrating family members without losing himself. His perception of world market economics was eerily precise for a person who never worked in that field. And his ability to pick up on small, yet significant, nuances without overexposing a person was almost an art form.

His wisdom was...