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Lessons in Love from Swan Lake

lessons in love from Swan LakeI had the privilege of viewing Tchaikovsky’s “Swan Lake” performed by the brilliant Bolshoi ballet.

Naturally, being a psychotherapist, this epic tale catalyzed in me an analytical exploration of the love between Prince Siegfried and the Swan Maiden Odette. The story imparts that through Siegfried’s love Odette can experience the freedom she desires–as his love will break the Sorcerers spell, which preserves her as a swan.

Breaking the spell is a potent theme in Swan Lake.

Odette embodies beauty and purity, but cannot fulfill her natural birthright as a woman. Siegfried’s love with i’s potential to humanize Odette can free her from her curse so she can shed her swan identity and be the woman she was born to be.

The implicit meaning here is that real love liberates the authentic self from the trap of a fraudulent persona and allows for integration.

Siegfried pledges undying love and fidelity to Odette, but tragically his inflated idealism and pursuit of perfect romantic love, is influenced by the dark hand of fate. Tested by fate, Siegfried fails. He is bewitched by Odette’s doppelganger, the dangerously seductive Black Swan Odile.

Blinded by enchantment, Siegfried succumbs to his attraction to Odile, thus abandoning his love for Odette by taking Odile as his bride.

Psychological Torment

As the saga prevails, Siegfried awakens to his betrayal and begs Odette for forgiveness. Although he is forgiven by Odette, they can no longer unite and Siegfried finds himself alone crushed by harsh reality and his psychological torment.

Odette is left with her curse and Siegfreid is left to accept that the fantasy of perfection and omnipotence can never be fulfilled.

The psychological torment of Siegfried epitomizes the lover who chases illusions and is destroyed by his fixation on an immature mental projection of an elevated perfect love, devoid of flaws and adult responsibility.

From a psychological perspective, the compulsive need to escape to an otherworldly experience of union, in pursuit of the unattainable iconic lover speaks of unresolved disillusionment and trauma.

In Swan Lake, there are implications that Siegfried’s masculine power was usurped by his mother. Siegfried is to keep up appearances and fulfill his privileged role by choosing an appropriate bride from an array of young princesses selected by his mother, the Queen.

Siegfried defies his mother through his disinterest in her chosen suitors and attempts to reclaim his manhood by pledging undying love to his idolized object of perfection, Odette.

Traumatic Enactment

From an object relations stance, the impulse to idolize another reveals a deep-seated quest to have all needs gratified by a sexualized parental figure.

Thus, Siegfried is in the throes of a traumatic enactment. By deluding himself with fantasies of perfection, his emasculation and pain is obscured by illusory power and dreams of love’s perfection. Turning to omnipotent fantasies of idolized love leads him to falsely believe that he is saved him from his impotence, and shielded from the Bad Mother.

Hypothetically, for Siegfried any perceived ‘badness’ is unbearable as it shatters the idealized projection of perfect love and catapults him back into that intolerable moment of humiliation when his mother sadistically withdrew her love.

The developmental task of tolerating disappointment while concomitantly loving another is necessary to mature relatedness.

For some, this experience of disappointment is split off and the fantasy of the ‘perfect’ other is tenaciously held onto. Since the deification of a beloved is an antidote to the oppressive pain of impotence, when the idolized beloved eventually disappoints she is devalued and ultimately discarded if a humanized perspective cannot occur.

In certain versions of Swan Lake, Siegfried and Odette end their enslavement through death.

In the process of psychological transformation, there is a figurative death passage that occurs. The resurrection of the true Self is predicated on this death passage, as it gives birth to psychic wholeness. So perhaps it is through death that Siegfried and Odette surrender to the consummation of their spiritual love and fulfill their eternal pledge to one another.

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Lessons in Love from Swan Lake

Rev Sheri Heller, LCSW

Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW, is a seasoned NYC psychotherapist with 25+ years experience in the addiction and mental health fields. Sheri is also an interfaith minister and playwright, and the founder of The Sistah Tribe - Phoenix Project, a therapeutic theater event for at-risk women and girls in the public sector of NYC. For more information, visit www.sheritherapist.com

 

APA Reference
Heller, R. (2016). Lessons in Love from Swan Lake. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 11, 2018, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/lessons-in-love-from-swan-lake/

 

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Last updated: 4 Mar 2016
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 4 Mar 2016
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