Anxiety

Overcoming Loss Requires the Ability and Time to Grieve

Battling loss and grief are normal after suffering a difficult life event. Whether you have a veteran patient who has lost a loved one to illness or an accident, had his or her sense of safety and security stolen from them after being nearly killed in combat, involuntarily separated from service, or were left feeling...

Coping Skills

How to Handle Abuse

Mark’s wife began by verbally abusing him early on in the marriage. As the years progressed, so did her abusive behavior escalating into her throwing and destroying his phone. He wants to get a divorce, but also wants to wait until after his daughter graduates from high school which is about one year away.Natalie’s boss...

Business Mindset for Therapists

Four Steps for Staying Present in Sessions

Being a therapist is hard work that requires an incredible amount of mindfulness, whether you have a formal practice or not. We are trained to be good listeners, space holders, unconditional validators, growth-facilitators, case managers, and sometimes entire support systems, all at once.For some of our patients, the time they spend with us is the...

General

How Do You Get Wisdom?

After spending an afternoon conversing with her grandfather, Stephanie realized for the first time just how wise he was. His insight was amazing. He showed compassion and patience towards frustrating family members without losing himself. His perception of world market economics was eerily precise for a person who never worked in that field. And his...

Anger

Supporting the Emotional Life of Boys: Changing the Playbook at the Heart

The challenges start early. Before formal schooling begins, boys are more likely to be referred for behavior problems, much more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD, and to be dis-enrolled from preschool.And it goes on.Boys account for the overwhelming majority of school discipline referrals (80-90%), of high school dropouts, and they earn approximately 40 percent of...

General

What’s the difference between a narcissist, sociopath, and borderline?

People often wonder about the differences between  borderline, narcissist, and antisocial personality disorders - the Cluster B personality disorders.It is helpful to realize that personality disorders exist on a continuum, and also that the following three personality types can all exist in one individual and at different degrees of intensity.  That is to say, personality...

Anxiety

Why Treating Postpartum Depression as Trauma is Key to Good Care

Most health professionals understand postpartum depression (PPD) and other mood disorders are a serious mental health concern. Raising awareness of postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs) is so important for two reasons. First, professionals need to be more proactive with evaluation and diagnosis, because PMADs can be challenging to...

General

How Suicide Deceives

Recently a friend, Donna, experienced the trauma of losing their sister to suicide. Even though it has been eighteen years, four months, and 17 days since my best friend committed suicide, it still haunts me. Within seconds of hearing Donna’s journey, I was instantly transported back in time to the days following my best friend’s...

Child Development

Should Americans Be Happier Than They Are?

The man who is a pessimist before 48 knows too much; if he is an optimist after it, he knows too little. --Mark Twain Should Americans feel happier than they do? Despite the heroic efforts of Harvard psychology professor Steven Pinker, I remain unconvinced.As a fellow humanist, I sympathize with Prof. Pinker’s predicament. Having amassed a...

General

Narcissism Passed Down a Generation

Narcissistic fatherAt 12 years old, Tabitha was the polar opposite of her narcissistic parent. Her father was an overt grandiose narcissist who loved to brag about himself. Whenever Tabitha excelled, her father would take the credit but not before pointing out that he had accomplished even more. By contrast, Tabitha was subtle,...

Aggression

Violence and Video Games: Are They Linked?

Contentious debate continues over whether video games and other forms of media promote violent behavior, particularly in the wake of the Parkland, Fla., school shooting. Games like “Resident Evil,” “Manhunt,” and “Mortal Kombat” top the list. But, is there a one-size-fits-all answer to the question?

Exhaustion

20 Lies Addicts Say to Justify their Addiction

Angel came into counseling knowing that something was wrong but not knowing what it was. After being married for seven years, he noticed his wife became more secretive and distant. Money from their savings account was missing and unaccounted for, his wife would disappear frustrated and return weirdly happy, and she seemed to get angry...

Abuse

The Psychological Effects and Treatment of Child Abuse

Definition:Complex trauma occurs over time.  Experiences of chronic child abuse and neglect result in complex post-traumatic stress disorder. It’s not that one time being assaulted by your parent caused you trauma, it’s that your experience as a child was filled with recurring involvements of maltreatment, resulting in symptoms that are often diagnosed as...

Exhaustion

20 Daily Lies We Tell Ourselves

Kelvin’s life was in shambles once again. The past 30 years of his adulthood resulted in three divorces with children from each marriage, five major career changes, and several moves across the country. As he moved back into his parent’s house for the fourth time in his adult life, he knew he needed to change.This...

Conflict Management

The Psychology of Workplace Shootings

Nasim Aghda was named the suspect responsible for the YouTube Headquarters shootings that left one man and two women injured with gunshot wounds. The attacker shot herself dead.Police say they are still investigating a motive but can psychological research on this kind of mass shooting reveal clues as to possible motives?It has been reported...

Coping Skills

How to Recover from a Narcissistic Relationship

When twelve years of marriage ended, Jack realized during the divorce that his wife was narcissistic. The cold-hearted way she treated their marriage and the divorce highlighted her insensitivity, arrogance, lack of remorse, and superiority complex. Now, Jack was left to pick up the pieces of his shattered life and find a way to move...

Business Advice for Therapists

So You Have Been Asked to be a Supervisor

In the past, good counseling skills and years of experience as a therapist were considered to be sufficient credentials for becoming a supervisor. But the role and the requirements for doing it have changed markedly over the last 15 to 20 years.Supervisors have always been expected to help...

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