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When your Parent is a Narcissist: Take your Life Back (or, establish it in the First Place!)

People who grow up in a home with a narcissistic parent tend to learn how to navigate life by using their parent’s feelings and moods as a guidepost. If the parent is happy, then the family can rest. If the parent is in a bad mood, then it is the family’s job to do something, anything, to fix the problem.

In reality, the problem is within the narcissist him/herself. The narcissist’s unhappiness is not caused by his/her...

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What’s up with Bill Cosby? – A perfect example of the duplicitous narcissist

Isn't it disappointing to watch "America's Father" be denigrated to nothing more than an over-sexed womanizer, or even worse, a rapist?  Or perhaps "disappointing" is an understatement. Perhaps another term describes it better; "Devastating?" Who saw that coming?  I know I certainly didn't.

As all the publicity about Bill Cosby's indiscretions are revealed to the point that now the celebrity has been accused of sexually accosting over 50 women, and charged with three felonies of "sexual...

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What’s the difference between a narcissist, sociopath, and borderline?

People often wonder about the differences between  borderline, narcissist, and antisocial personality disorders - the Cluster B personality disorders.

It is helpful to realize that personality disorders exist on a continuum, and also that the following three personality types can all exist in one individual and at different degrees of intensity.  That is to say, personality disorders are not mutually exclusive.

In addition to this, all personality disorders contain elements of narcissism; in particular, are the traits...

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Narcissists Do Not Parent: This Explains Why You are Having Such a Hard Time!

Do you ever wonder why you are so exhausted raising your kids when their other parent is a narcissist?

It's because, in all practicality, you're a single parent. Not only that, if you are still married to the narcissist, he or she is the biggest and most difficult of all your kids. He/she causes you a high level of stress most of the time.

If you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist you might as well...

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The Psychological Effects and Treatment of Child Abuse

Definition:

Complex trauma occurs over time.  Experiences of chronic child abuse and neglect result in complex post-traumatic stress disorder. It’s not that one time being assaulted by your parent caused you trauma, it’s that your experience as a child was filled with recurring involvements of maltreatment, resulting in symptoms that are often diagnosed as ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder,) depression, anxiety, and other psychological maladies.  While these diagnoses may be accurate on some level,...

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How do I break my addiction to the narcissist?

Narcissists are addictive. They offer up salient brain chemicals that are hard to overcome. When people get involved in an intimate relationship with a narcissist they become hooked on the experiences the narcissist brings into their lives. Breaking an addiction to strong brain chemistry created by powerful emotional experiences is hard to do.

It involves a trauma bond. Trauma bonds with other people are stronger than typical human bonds.  Trauma bonds are created in narcissistic relationship...

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Divorcing a Narcissist

The first phase of divorcing a narcissist involves developing an exit strategy. This is an anxiety-provoking prospect. Many people feel as if the task is too daunting to undertake. Many wonder, “Where do I go?” “How do I start?” How can I survive financially?”

There are many unknowns at this phase of the process. There are many factors to consider prior to actually leaving the relationship. It is recommended that you take your time to consider...

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The Myth of “I’m Triggered and it’s Your Fault”

What, exactly, are triggers?  Triggers are those moments and circumstances in our lives that cause us to experience an emotional response that is not in line with the event that caused it.  Another term for experiencing a trigger is feeling that response of, "You pushed my button!"

A trigger event causes an emotional flashback, where we feel very strong emotions, often uncontrollable.  Most of us assume that the trigger was caused by the perpetrator – the...

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When Your Friend is in an Abusive Relationship

(Note: For the purpose of this article, I am going to use female pronouns for the victims of abuse. This is done for simplicity sake. Please do not take this to mean that victims of abuse are not or cannot be male.)

How do you help a friend who is in an abusive relationship?  Should you bring up the fact that you believe she’s being abused, or should you let her tell you on her own?...

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What’s the Difference between Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder?

Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a serious personality disorder that is often confused with the more commonly known Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).  These two disorders sound similar in name, and are often confused with each other, yet they are really two very different and very distinct disorders.

The main distinction between the two disorders is that OCD sufferers perform ritualistic behaviors, and those persons with OCPD tend to be perfectionistic in many areas, causing their...

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