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Going No Contact


Going no contact is a self protective measure, indicated when you need to break free from involvement with someone because of a divorce, recovery from a trauma bond, or release…


4 thoughts on “Going No Contact

  • June 25, 2019 at 1:37 am
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    What do I do if the toxic person is my mother? I’ve walked on eggshells my whole life trying not to set her off. If I’m not consistently glorifying her to her satisfaction she goes crazy. The other day I chose to do an event with my church choir instead of go see her, and today she’s threatening suicide. I don’t know what to do, but I know I have a right a life outside of her shadow.

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    • June 25, 2019 at 1:59 am
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      Sounds borderline. I think you should give yourself permission to be yourself and live your own life. I know it will take a lot of mental gymnastics because of lifelong conditioning to the contrary, but that’s what I would recommend.

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  • June 25, 2019 at 10:14 am
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    I like your no contact article. Do you have suggestions for if you share children?

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    • June 25, 2019 at 10:45 am
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      I have heard it said, “Low Contact.” Plus it depends on the age of the children. I think sticking to a schedule and letting the legal system help. But the things I listed can all be done with sharing children as well. I intentionally kept the no contact to emotional no contact. Just keep your emotions out of it. Don’t give or take one ounce of emotional energy with respect to the other person.

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