3 thoughts on “Parenting Education: How to Help Your Children After Trauma

  • September 6, 2020 at 5:15 pm

    My opinions follow:

    Attachment Therapy’s parenting methods (aka Nancy Thomas parenting) are based on deprivation, humiliation, isolation, manipulation with food, nutritional abuse, bare bedrooms, excessive exercise/chores, “strong sitting” for hours, compliance training, “reparenting,” etc. In short, it has been denounced by APSAC and the APA’s Division on Child Maltreatment as abuse and potentially harmful.

    Nancy Thomas is the lay person who acted as a “therapeutic parent” for Connell Watkins — at the time when Watkins and two other therapeutic parents suffocated to death a 10yo girl in a “therapy” session. Other cases involving these parenting methods have resulted in criminal child abuse and death charges.

    Why on earth does PsychCentral continue to promote Attachment Therapy/Parenting???

    • September 6, 2020 at 5:42 pm

      From reading the book, “strong sitting” seems to be an exercise in self-discipline, and should not happen for an extended period of time.

  • September 7, 2020 at 3:13 am

    Hi Sharie,
    I wish that my mom would have seen this article when my abuse by my stepfather was revealed. I’d just turned 17 and in some ways was mature for my age but in other ways, not so much. I had long since been put in the parentified child role and at the time I revealed the abuse, would have welcomed (because I desperately needed) my mom to take control–or even another safe adult to do so. Reality was very different–it was chaotic from the first moment she knew!
    I took care of her, because though she initially tried to get me to trust and open up to her, I didn’t feel safe. He was allowed to remain in the home, I was allowed that first night away. I don’t remember hardly anything about that first night! Strange I know! Then she fell apart, wasn’t eating or sleeping, making her misery known. He was denying it loudly. My siblings were quite young so didn’t know what was happening. I was threatened by another relative with a gun.
    To have had an adult I trusted look me in the eye and say “you are safe now. He won’t be allowed to hurt you or harass you anymore. It will be okay” would have meant the world to me. I tried to reassure myself but I knew better. I remember writing on a piece of paper before ripping it up “I finally told. The worker said I did the right thing but I didn’t because everyone is upset, or mad plus I had to come back here today. I am scared. It will never be okay again. Why doesn’t that worker know that?”
    Anyway, great article that I hope and pray will help other families!


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