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The Recovery Expert
with Sharie Stines, Psy.D.

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How to Integrate Traumatic Memories

The following information is provided to help therapists and counselors assist their clients in processing through the exercise of integrating uncomforted memories.  The content of this article is based on the work and research of Dr. Bonnie Badenoch, the compassionate therapist.  For more information on her great work, I would highly recommend her awesome book, The Brain-Savvy Therapist Workbook.

What goes unseen and uncomforted remains isolated in our brains; , these memories are in an unintegrated...

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The Power of Journaling

Sometimes it is hard to know where to begin the journey of recovery from traumatic and other difficult experiences, such as abuse, rejection, death, betrayal, abandonment, disaster, loss, or some other type of disturbance that occurs in our lives.  There is, however, one tool that is always available, and for the most part, can be used at any time.  This tool is the journal.

Why is journaling so powerful?  There are many reasons that journaling can...

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Victims of Emotional Abuse

There is no “one size fits all” description for emotional abuse; but, there are some generalizations to be made.  Emotional abuse is any type of intentional behavior that hurts its target emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and psychologically (if you can find the distinctions).  Emotional abuse, on its own, is particularly damaging because it is insidious and tends to be covert.  By covert, I mean, it “flies under the radar.”  Most victims and others do not see...

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What to Expect When you Marry a Narcissist

If you are planning to marry a narcissist, here is a list of things to expect in your relationship.  Realize that you will be marrying a person who is incapable of having a healthy, intimate, interpersonal relationship because narcissism is a characterological disorder. Your marriage will be the most important relationship in your life; be wise in who you select to commit to.  If you marry a narcissist you will be uniting with a person who does not...

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The Silent Treatment

At best the silent treatment is an immature behavior used by spoiled brats and manipulative individuals.  At worst, it is a weapon used by abusers to punish their victims.  One demographic of the population that particularly loves the silent treatment is the narcissist.  In fact, the silent treatment is the narcissist's favorite weapon.

Whether the person in your life is using the silent treatment immaturely or abusively, one thing is for sure, it is infuriating to receive; problems...

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The Narcissist’s Fan Club (aka Flying Monkeys)

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke

Isn't it enough that victims have to deal with the hurt and frustration caused merely by loving a narcissist?  To add insult to injury, narcissists in their lives have their own personal minions, appropriately labeled as "flying monkeys," who side with them and join their "team" and set out to participate in their damaging agenda to destroy the targets' lives.

Flying monkeys...

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How to Spot a Child Molester

How do you know when a person is safe for your child to be around?   Answer:  You really can never be 100% sure because pedophiles and other brands of child molesters are master manipulators; but, there are some clues that can be indicators that someone is not safe for your child.

Ways to identify a child molester:

They are more interested in talking to your child than they are in talking to you.
They tend to...

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Children with Attachment Based Narcissistic “Parental Alienation Syndrome”

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the unhealthy coalition between a narcissistic parent and his or her children against the targeted, non-narcissistic, non-abusive parent.  The innocent or targeted parent receives hostility and rejection from his or her children in this system.  The psychological health of the children is used as arsenal in the narcissist’s twisted world.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is a family systems pathology involving the triangulation of children into the abusive, narcissistic parental relationship.  In the...

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Healing from an Addiction (to a Person, Behavior or Substance): Know the Psychological Set-ups for Relapse

What are some of the thoughts and personal self-defeating beliefs that contribute to relapse from addictions?  Here is an overview of some common pitfalls that addicts fall into, psychologically, which contribute to their inability to stay sober. If you are a person trying to overcome any type of addiction, then be aware that you are probably going to face the following mental sabotage strategies created in your mind.  I would like to thank, renowned relapse...

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Two Words for Better Parenting

After raising six children, reading many parenting books and attending many parenting classes, I have learned to boil good parenting down to two important words:  (1) enjoy (2) reflect.

The best advice I can give parents today is to enjoy your children.  So often parents lose sight of the gift they have in their children, frequently getting caught up in the everydayness of school, chores, sports, that they forget to stop and look their children in...