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The Recovery Expert
with Sharie Stines, Psy.D.

Abuse

How to treat Borderline Personality Disorder: A Schema Therapy Approach (Part 2)

Please see previous article for introduction:  How to treat Borderline Personality Disorder: A Schema Therapy Approach (Part 1).
Common Modes, Personas, Sub-Selves of the Borderline Personality
According to the Schema Therapy Model, the person struggling with BPD has five common sub-selves or modes (Young, Klosko, Weishaar, 2003):

Abandoned child- this sub-self is the suffering inner child. It is the part that feels...

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How to treat Borderline Personality Disorder: A Schema Therapy Approach (Part 3)

Please see previous two sections here:  Part 1 and Part 2. One of the best approaches to treating people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to use schema therapy or an approach involving the treatment of the client’s underlying schemas and maladaptive modes and parts of self.

Mental health professionals often view clients with BPD as manipulative, selfish people.  This negative view is destructive to treatment.  As soon as a therapist views any client negatively,...

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How to treat Borderline Personality Disorder: A Schema Therapy Approach (Part 4)

Please see previous three sections here:  Part 1 and Part 2 and Part 3.

Steps to take

Here are the steps to take, practically, to assist with healing the client who is struggling with borderline personality disorder (BPD):

Identify the client’s parts of self.
Explain to the client that the parts of self were created by the client as protectors in childhood. Help the client to be non-judgmental of these parts, but to honor...

Betrayal

Coping With Divorce: When the Kids are With the Other Parent During the Holidays

This time of year can be particularly difficult for people who have experienced the loss of a marriage and must now face the emptiness of celebrating the holidays without their family.

In the case of divorce, everything changes. This time of year brings up memories of holidays past and of our dashed hopes and dreams. Many people idealize holidays and treat them like the entire value of their relationships rest on these days alone.

What can you...

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Transactional Analysis: Tool for Developing a Healthy Life

Transactional Analysis (TA) was created by Eric Berne in the 1960s as a form of cognitive behavior therapy.  Here are some of the basic ideas regarding this type of therapy, which are ingenious. Transactional Analysis is a brief therapy, which is reality based and involves personal responsibility and action.

Following are some important definitions needed in order to understand how TA works:

Ego States:  In TA, every person has three sub-parts or "ego states;" these are:  The...

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Characteristics Commonly Found in “Alienated” Parents (or other Alienated Relationships)

If you’ve ever experienced the rejection of a child or other important relationship, then I’m sure you’ll find the observations presented in this article compelling.

Being on the receiving end of a rejection can be devastating.  Whether it’s a boss, a parent, or a relative, the pain can be very difficult to contend with. If it’s your child, you tend to feel particularly vulnerable.

Most parents, when rejected by a child, tend to think of everything they...

Abuse

The Strong Victim: Why Victims of Abuse Stay

There are many myths about victims of abuse, such as, they tend to be passive, easily manipulated, pushovers, doormats, etc. Never do you hear people describe victims of abuse, particularly, domestic violence victims, as strong or courageous, or anything positive.

I would like to set the record straight. Many, if not most, victims of domestic violence and/or emotional abuse tend to be strong, intelligent, likable, well-educated and well-put-together women, with great personalities.  Many of these women...

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The Clinician’s Guide to Helping Client’s Heal from Trauma Bonds: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

What is a trauma bond?  This is a bond created by the good/bad reinforcement of a toxic relationship. Trauma bonds occur when a relationship is solidified and defined by trauma, such as toxicity, addiction, abuse, and abandonment.

Trauma bonds are addictive. They offer up salient brain chemicals that are hard to overcome. When people get involved in intimate relationships which are toxic they become hooked on the...

Abuse

Control by Deprivation

This is a coercive strategy used to control another person by withdrawing affection and warmth from the relationship; or as a weapon of punishment.

Have you ever been with a person who uses deprivation as a means to control you? If you aren't sure what deprivation looks like, here is a list of examples:

Withdraws affection
Pulls away
Acts indifferent and detached
Does not respond to your social media, phone calls, or texts
Does not respond...

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How Victims are groomed by Abusive Predators

People who recover from abusive relationships of any type, including cult situations, domestic violence, sex trafficking, and even “run of the mill” types of abusive relationships often ask themselves the question, “How did I let this happen to me?”

There are a few common reasons people stay in abusive relationships, but the primary reason they get caught up in one in the first place is one reason:  Grooming.

What is grooming?

Grooming is a manipulative process used by...