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The ‘Sexy Sons’ Hypothesis: Why Women Have Better Sex With Men Other Women Desire

sexy sons theoryNew research from Oakland University reveals that psychologists might be able to predict what kind of man a woman is more likely to achieve an orgasm with. It is the type that women rate as being found more attractive by other women.

Published in the academic journal Personality and Individual Differences, the research explains why men found attractive by other women are more likely to deliver better erotic experiences.

The Evolutionary Advantage: Sexy Men Make Sexy Sons

The study argues that women want to have sons who are also eventually found more desirable by the opposite sex. This theory is referred to as the ‘sexy sons’ hypothesis of sexual selection, and explains a yet hitherto hidden factor in women’s desire for certain men, and women’s experience of physical relations.

Biological theory about the female orgasm is that it evolved to increase relationship satisfaction (this is referred to as the ‘‘Pair-Bond’’ Hypothesis) or to retain preferentially the sperm of men with higher genetic quality (‘‘Sire Choice’’ Hypothesis).

Evolutionary psychology argues that the female orgasm may have evolved as an erotic response designed to retain sperm during certain sexual encounters. The achievement of an orgasm, evolutionary psychologists contend, makes it more likely that an egg will be fertilized.

If the sire-choice role of the female orgasm is true, then natural selection would have shaped the female body (and brain) to be more likely to achieve an orgasm during sex with a more desirable mate.

‘Desirable’ in this context refers to evolutionary desirability, which means men whose genes women, consciously or unconsciously, chose to pass on to their sons for the son’s future reproductive success.

It makes sense, from an evolutionary standpoint, that if women want their own genes to be successfully transmitted on through future generations, that they would be motivated to produce sons who are found physically desirable by the opposite sex. The more desirable these sons are, the more likely they are to be successful in the mating game, by either having sexual access to more women and/or securing higher quality mates—thus achieving evolutionary reproductive success.

This new study, entitled “Female Copulatory Orgasm and Male Partner’s Attractiveness to his Partner and Other Women,” involved 439 women in committed heterosexual relationships. Intriguingly, the study excluded 32 women from the analysis, because they were unsure, or could not remember, whether they had an orgasm the last time they had sexual intercourse with their partner.

The authors of the study, Yael Sela, Viviana Weekes-Shackelford, Todd Shackelford, and Michael Pham, found that women who perceive that other women find their partner to be more attractive are more likely to report orgasm at last sexual encounter.

But we also know from other psychology research that women’s assessment of how drawn they are to a potential mate is much more influenced by how desirable they notice other women find that man. For women, the assessment of a good quality male mate is more complex, and women therefore use the assessments of other women to guide their choice. If people are like hotels, then women appear wired up to use a kind of ‘Trip Advisor’ in their brains, whether they consciously realise it or not, before choosing a mate.

Men, in contrast, appear happy to settle for bed and breakfast.

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The ‘Sexy Sons’ Hypothesis: Why Women Have Better Sex With Men Other Women Desire

Raj Persaud, FRCPsych, M.Sc M.Phil

Raj Persaud is joint podcast editor for the Royal College of Psychiatrists and also now has a free app on iTunes and google play store entitled ‘Raj Persaud in conversation,’ which includes a lot of free information on the latest research findings in mental health, plus interviews with top experts from around the world. Download it free from this link as well as here.His books are available at: Amazon.co.uk.

 

APA Reference
Persaud,, R. (2015). The ‘Sexy Sons’ Hypothesis: Why Women Have Better Sex With Men Other Women Desire. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 12, 2018, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/the-sexy-sons-hypothesis-why-women-have-better-sex-with-men-other-women-desire/

 

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