Artists who are victims of disordered parents may carry an insidious inescapable shame, which enforces the edict that one’s gifts are a threat, responsible for instigating feelings of resentment, inadequacy and envy. Envied and perceived as a threa,t the artistic child may be forbidden by the PD parent to play music, draw, perform or express his creative gifts in any capacity.
Parental prohibitions and shaming of children sends an implicit message about actualizing potentials. Having learned that any indication of happiness, accomplishment or admiration results in contempt and myriad forms of emotional violence, these latent artists may hide in the shadows, having lost sight of their innate endowments or simply too fearful to expose those essential parts of themselves.
Alternatively, unable to tolerate human flaws and thus driven by perfection, they may identify with the aggressor and perpetrate the cycle of abuse they endured by deriding and diminishing others. Like their parental abusers, they may abide by self-defeating perfectionistic ideals as a defense against perceived inadequacy.
While personality disordered parents are notorious for perpetrating continuous sabotage and deprecation, their egomaniacal fixation on status and personae may result in maligning the artistic child for his gifts and concomitantly vicariously exploiting him for narcissistic supply, so as to aggrandize the PD parent’s stature and self-importance.
Henceforth, when these artists have their creative work usurped, repackaged and exploited with no recognition or accreditation, memories of dehumanizing parental abuse are triggered.
For the artist who acquires fame, being a narcissistic extension for industry moguls in the guise of caring and admiration and contending with the parasitical demands of a fan base, may replicate the trauma of being objectified and used by narcissistic parents.
Ultimately, in a subconscious effort to master psychological and emotional injuries traumatic patterns will be enacted with those who either embody the traits of one’s parental abusers and/or the scorned victimized child.
The wounded artist will need to undertake an emotionally and psychologically taxing exploration of a painful history, so as to bring into consciousness destructive patterns and potent projections ignited by similar dynamics encountered in the art industry.
Only then can he mourn his losses and establish a grounded realistic commitment to his efforts to flourish creatively and financially as a professional artist.
Healing these core wounds can afford the artist a more formidable ego and perspective as he contends with the logistics of navigating the vicissitudes of the market and popular culture. Ending toxic collaborations while rebuilding a network of trustworthy cohorts is a critical part of this process.
The professional artist will need to acquire a basic understanding of legal rights and may need to procure legal representation sensitive to the plights of artists when negotiating contracts and selling one’s work. Restoring one’s artistic integrity and authority may require taking legal action with those who exploit ideas and labor.
While protecting one’s work is an act of self-respect and a critical part of upholding one’s artistic integrity and aesthetic, it is also integral to strategic marketing. Knowing who one is as an artist and how one’s artistic identity coincides with cultural and economic trends influences branding and developing a viable customer base.
To sum up, surviving the dark descent into childhood betrayals, traumas and defeats and the parallel battlefield of promoting one’s art lends itself to cultivating a greater capacity for discernment and discrimination so as to create the space to boldly and fearlessly return to one’s artistic process and wash away from the soul the dust of every day life (Picasso).
The emboldened healed artist, able to face core injuries and attain a sensible and balanced outlook, can safely traverse the art industry and fully engage with his gifts from that mystical place of surrender where his creative spirit resides.